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the asshole relative

m16 elitestm16 elitest
edited July 2007 in Everything Else
I have a brother in law who constantly keeps asking to borrow my xbox 360 and up untill recently I would lend it to him when I wasn't playing it. We live in an apartment and he lives down the hall on my floor. During the school year it was common for me to not be playing it. Now it's summer time and i'm playing it a lot more and suddenly I am an asshole for not lending it to him. During the times I lent it to him, my b button is sticking and I have had many friends taken off my friends list. Of course he denies any of this, but it wasn't me. Along with me being an asshole, he has a set of hair clippers and usually gives me hair cuts and is now threatening to not give me any haricuts. He's acting like he paid for half of the system and have an arrangement or something and doesn't appear greatefull for the past times I lent him it. I often get the third degree when I say i'm going to be playing it and he responds by asking time intervels and if i'm going to be playing then. I don't understand why he seems to have trouble accepting no. My mom and sister(his wife) say don't lend it. He has constant problems keeping friendships for long periods of time and constantly starts arguments that result in him yelling louder reather than being smart and having good counter points. I'm posting this asking your opinions on him and his attitude based on what I've posted. I assure you this post is as accurate as possible.

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  • RochelleRochelle
    It's your xbox 360, he didn't pay for it. Tell him to f*ck off. So what he doesn't give you a haircut, just go get one from someplace else. Having free haircuts isn't worth that sort of grief, in my opinion. If he can't respect you and take care of your stuff, he doesn't deserve to use it. I can't stand ungrateful people. If he wants an xbox 360 so badly, he can get one on his own.
  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    edited July 2007
    Well he spends all his money getting drunk and buying drugs, he's 30 years old and stays at home with his daughter. He smokes pot in the house when watching her, but she's in her room so she doesn't see it. I'm only 18 and he's 30 and I think HE needs to grow up. Up untill now he's been fine to me because I would just "take the beatings," but now I see how he truly is. His agression is through the roof, whenever my sister borrows or lends money to my mother he has a hissy fit and even when no lending occured. He has never hit my sister, but he has hurt her physically. My sister would leave him, but since he watches her and has since she was born (because he couldn't hold down any other job) she wouldn't get custody as sick as it sounds. She talked to a lawyer and he told her she wouldn't. There is other stuff I could say, but that would take a while.
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  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    Only on his side of the family, I'm nothing like him.
  • MitchyDMitchyD
    It's your xbox 360, he didn't pay for it. Tell him to f*ck off.


    /thread. Well said.
  • AndrewAndrew
    Is there anything preventing you from moving out? With all his "habits", I wouldn't want to live with him, especially if he is drunk/high all the time.
  • AprecheApreche
    This is definitely the kind of person you just want to remove from your life. Do your best to make sure that you never have to see or talk to this person ever again. Either that, or get them some help so they are no longer shitty.
  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    edited July 2007
    Interestingly enough, me and my mom my mom and I are moving out because of problems she had with him. At the time I was like "he's tolerable," and now I'm like "hurry mom we need to be out of here by the end of the day!" Yeah, we're moving out and now I feel better knowing others can't blame us for doing so.
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  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    I don't care about him giving me a haircut, I just find it really funny that he'd use that as a threat. It's like "umm I have more than $10, unlike some I don't waste my life and money on altering my state of mind."
  • One SinOne Sin
    If it's your XBOX, then you have every right to deny him access. Give him the finger and tell him to buy one with his own god damn money.
  • RoosterRooster
    we're moving out and now I feel better knowing otherscan't blame us for doing so.
    No way can we blame you. That's exactly the right course of action. Your brother-in-law sounds like a real crass act. Get your XBOX out of the house first. No telling what he might do while he's stoned.

    I'm really sorry about your sister's situation. I'll be praying that it all works out with her and all of you. Good luck.
  • Kate MonsterKate Monster
    edited July 2007
    Well he spends all his money getting drunk and buying drugs, he's 30 years old and stays at home with his daughter. He smokes pot in the house when watching her, but she's in her room so she doesn't see it. I'm only 18 and he's 30 and I think HE needs to grow up. Up untill now he's been fine to me because I would just "take the beatings," but now I see how he truly is. His agression is through the roof, whenever my sister borrows or lends money to my mother he has a hissy fit and even when no lending occured. He has never hit my sister, but he has hurt her physically. My sister would leave him, but since he watches her and has since she was born (because he couldn't hold down any other job) she wouldn't get custody as sick as it sounds. She talked to a lawyer and he told her she wouldn't. There is other stuff I could say, but that would take a while.
    If she wants custody, she could just call the cops and turn him in for his pot smoking, particularly around the child. I am a paralegal, so I really can't give you legal advice, but when I worked matrimonial law that was how it would work.

    If he bothers you about it again, tell him politely, but firmly that it is yours, and you were happy to lend it to him when he was polite and recognized that it was a favor, but he has become aggressive and rude, and that you can recommend several stores and website where he can purchase his own (if he could put his pot money into it for a month).
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  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    I'll look into that, thanks kmac.
  • navelfluffnavelfluff
    edited July 2007
    No way can we blame you. That's exactly the right course of action. Your brother-in-law sounds like a real crass act. Get your XBOX out of the house first. No telling what he might do while he's stoned.
    I don't think you should worry about what he does to property while he is stoned. I would worry more about his state of mind when intoxicated on alcohol or other drugs. While it is a self destructive habit to be stoned all the time, being high on pot does not cause violence, anger or destructive urges. Quite the contrary.

    I have a good friend who for a period behaved like m16 elitest's brother in law, and it was damned annoying. I don't blame you at all.
    Post edited by navelfluff on
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