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being alone

m16 elitestm16 elitest
edited July 2007 in Everything Else
Does anyone else here prefer being by themselves while retaining social skills? I personally have average social skills, but I prefer being by myself.

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  • OmnutiaOmnutia
    It may be that you just don't like practising your social skills with your current set of friends. I like being around my friends but rarely go to social events such as parties as having to spend time doing socialising and doing nothing else doesn't appeal to me. Try joining clubs that do things you like as it's easier to socialise when you have something else to distract you when things go quiet.
  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    edited July 2007
    Yeah when I go to college i'm going to join some clubs, people say I should be more social, but it's my preference to be by myself. I guess I fall into that 10% of society as mentioned by an article on digg.
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  • cosmicenemacosmicenema
    I guess I fall into that 10% of society as mentioned by an article on digg.
    Link?
  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    I don't know where I got the 10%, might have been in the comments on digg, but here is the link Link and here is the digg article Link
  • rhinocerorhinocero
    Agree, this fits me pretty well.  I can talk to people, it's not my strength but I can. It just seems like I prefer people not bothering me.
  • navelfluffnavelfluff
    I was like that in my teens too. Then I found many very nice people that I actually liked to have around me a lot. I'm now 36 and very social. I still need my alone-time though.
  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    I plan on going to my local lug to meet some people and that leads me to my next question do linux users still hate apple? I plan on brining my macbook there and I don't wanna get kicked out.
  • glimpsterglimpster
    People put Linux on macs all the time, intel and power pc. It's more of a problem with hardcore windows users that have never touched a mac, and then talk about how awful they are.
  • OmnutiaOmnutia
    Thanks to whoever linked to the article.
  • m16 elitestm16 elitest
    No problem.
  • SymmetrySymmetry
    Not really. I guess I could say that I'm an introvert in that I find being with other people a bit tiring, but I enjoy it all the same.
  • glimpsterglimpster
    edited July 2007
    Yeah, it's weird, cause they're so many introverts that I'd like to get to know. Sometimes they're really awesome people, they just don't know it yet. But hell, that's what college is for. Everybody discovers who they are.
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  • MamathMamath
    Yeah, alone time is nice. Especially if you have my hobbies - drawing and painting aren't especially good as group activities. Unless you have a lot of artist friends to make one big picture with, maybe, but not everyone can draw or is willing to try. Reading and any single player games are also pretty inconvenient.

    Anyway, I'm of the personal opinion that I have damn good social skills thankyouverymuch but still get a lot of grief from family for being "anti-social". But we're probably all bias regarding our own social ability, you know. ;p

    Big gatherings are difficult. It's hard to share your time between all those people on any meaningful level. D: I think that's the real problem. I can talk to each person for five minutes if I must but I don't really see the point!
  • jwallacejwallace
    At least many of you are doing better than I am - I'm stuck in a cycle of wake up, shower, walk dog, two-hour commute, play with Microsoft Office/PC Link/Outlook for eight hours, two-hour commute, wash dishes, make an AV for my Gamespot profile, sleep. Wash, rinse, repeat.

    It's hard to break this cycle, especially when factoring such things as bills and only two members of my family work when there used to be five. The only type of real enjoyment I have now is my DS Lite. I can't even afford to travel anywhere because someone in my family screws up financially or just sits around playing with his Xbox 360 all day and night.

    I know very few people except for a couple of coworkers, but employees there who are at my age don't know jack about anything related to geek culture - none of them even knew what Windows Vista, Linux, podcasts, or ANY type of anime were.
  • navelfluffnavelfluff
    That's a really tough situation. I know it isn't easy to do, but you should try to get one or more commute pals. You have potentially 4 hours of social time every workday. You could use your DS to find other gamers for a start. If you are desperate enough you could wear a little note saying something like "I'm bored of commuting. Feel free to speak with me." You might find some really cool people that way (and discard the rest).
  • glimpsterglimpster
    Navelfluff, that's the coolest idea I've ever heard. Next time I go to work, that's what I'm doing. You're right though, dumb people would just be turned off by that, but the smart folks would flock to you, cause it really is a clever thought.

    The truth is, most of us have more in common with people far away from us, than the people living in our home town. It's absolutely true. That's why there's an internet in the first place.
  • MitchyDMitchyD
    Not at all. I work alone, which rules, but I'm at a point in my life where nearly EVERY ONE of my friends is away at school or moved away from my bum-fuck nowhere town... However, I'm fully ready to meet new people, it's just a matter of leaving this place.
    Right now I legitimately have more online friends than "real" friends, which I used to think sounded bad, but not so much anymore. Granted, I wish I had MORE people to hang out with, and while I do enjoy solitude, I NEED to use my social skills.
  • navelfluffnavelfluff
    edited July 2007
    Navelfluff, that's the coolest idea I've ever heard. Next time I go to work, that's what I'm doing.
    Wow, did I say something smart? ;-) I'm curious on how that works out for you, please report!

    Edit: BTW, I just realized that I only had public transport in mind when I wrote my suggestion for getting commute pals. It is possible if you commute by car too (if it's a common commuting route), but car sharing will probably require a bit more effort.
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  • glimpsterglimpster
    The shoe store I'm working at currently probably wouldn't take the concept that well, so I'm holding it for when I go back to working at my old job, fixing computers with a college kid boss. But hell, it'll be more fun, cause now I am technically a college kid.
  • tuttle88tuttle88
    I think it depends on how you were raised. I think most people need people time and alone time but in varying degrees. I'm an only child for a single parent who worked a fair bit so I spent quite a bit of time on my own growing up. As a result I need alone time quite badly. I can't spend too much time with people without going crazy, I feel fine going to movies or restaurants on my own and prefer shopping alone rather than with other people.
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