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Sibling Relations
How is/was your relationship with your sibling(s)? This doesn't apply to people who were only children.
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Otherwise, I think the actual interaction is good.
The way siblings interact is an interesting one. I was talking with my older brother and his partner one day about the position a child has in a group of siblings. She said that the oldest child has to deal with the most shit and that is why they have a chip on their shoulders. I had not heard that before. I have very much heard of middle child syndrome because I am the middle child so people love saying, "oh he is a typical middle child" whenever I am being difficult. But the idea of the eldest having a chip on their shoulder was a new thing that got me thinking about the other families I knew.
Now clearly there are far more variables at work than just some order of birth in a family, however I can easily imagine that it would have an impact. Despite being a family of four my youngest sister behaves like a spoilt only child. The gap between her and my younger brother is very large though so for the most part she may as well have been. I have pair or niece and nephews where both display similar strongly individual characteristics, rarely getting along, and I wonder if that is because one is a boy and the other is a girl. The different sex means they share less in common and therefore associate less. My cousins are two boys, and they get along very well, as one would expect brothers too. My wife is the youngest of a family of four and gets along best with the sister nearest to her in age. It appears to be all very confusing, I'd love someone to post a link to a paper on the personalities and characteristics of children based on gender and birth order.
Then there's Matt and Cess who I call my older bro and young sis. They've been my friends for a long time and fills that void of not having a close sibling. I consider them and their child my family just as much as my own. Yeah we get in disagreement sometimes but no where past "You're an uncle fucker!" "You suck balls at Halo!" "Stop fucking whining, Viga!" type fight. :P
My other sister I talk to quite a bit more. She's three years older and is one of the loudest people you'll meet. When we were kids we'd fight a lot, sometimes with fists, and I would get my ass kicked. It sucks having a sister who was a tomboy (stronger than me) with basically a blackbelt in Karate (knows how to fight). Now that she's in college we have a solid relationship.
Neither of my sisters are into anything geeky, or really have anything in common with me.
As for siblings, I have a little brother, he's two years and 11 months younger than I am. When we were younger we went to the fist, well, biting, clawing, tugging hair and trying to kick while wrestle-dancing, once in a while when the kettle once again overflowed. Now we just argue once in a while which sometimes results in him just mockingly calling me names. Ah well, he's still fully in the puberty phase, so what can you expect? He tends to misbehave to whomever he has something with, with absolutely no regards to respect. In our own family though.
And is there a specific word in English for the kind of family of only the parents and their kids, like in Dutch? Thus excluding aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.
Don't ask, Digimon is one of the few anime we both enjoy.
Whenever we are around eachother he always tries to belittle me or talk about how he's so much more superior because he graduated from college and is a Captain in the Army and how he is so important for the military and how he followed in my parent's footsteps with going into the military. I think it's all bullshit and try to pay no mind, but at times when we try to have a conversation about politics it ends up in a "I'm right, you're wrong" argument.
He's a republican and supports G.W. and thinks he has done no wrong. I can't argue with that mentality, so I just be quiet and ignore him.
I don't think my brother's horrible or anything, it's just we don't really connect. He is geeky though. I remember always seeing him have friends over and they would be there all night playing D&D while listening to the Conan, The Barbarian soundtracks. However, now he's tries to come off as the more macho type. He plays video games and swears by the PS3 and how all the video games I play are inferior. I think he seriously has a inferiority complex.
I do remember some good times with him though. When my parents would have company over, that's when my brother and I knew we could totally mess around and do stupid shit and not get in trouble. However, when it came to end of the party, my father would yell for us, get his belt, and we would get our whooping for acting a fool. This was the routine for a while.
One day, when my parents had a party and my parents saw us acting up, we knew we were going to get it afterwards. My brother than told me, "Hey, Rochelle. At the end of the party, let's put on ALL our underwear so when Dad spanks us, it won't hurt as much." I thought to myself, "Oh my god, that's BRILLIANT!"
So we put on all our underwear. It must have been probably 10 pairs or so. My father yells for us, gets out the belt and tells us to pull down our pants. We comply. He then looks at us and goes, "What the fuck is this?". We give him an innocent naive look. He then tells us to go to our rooms and go to bed. We could hear him laugh as we left. No spankings for that night. ^^