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I need help in tracking someone down, please!

kage_rodkage_rod
edited April 2008 in Everything Else
Justin is my friend's boyfriend. He lives over in Missouri, and about 3 weeks ago just ..stopped talking. At first it wasn't too worrisome - maybe he lost internet? Well, eventually, she found out that his phone went out of service. She tried to find the address and a phone number connected to it. The closest we got was one that had the same street and road, but the wrong house numbers. She called anyway, but it was a wrong number. He worked in a deli.

Unfortunately, we don't have his last name - she deletes all her chat logs and can't remember names for shit. He could've told her thirty million times and she still wouldn't remember. v.v; We're getting desperate: she's freaking out that he's hurt or worse, and then there's real life.. he was supposed to come up for her grad. Please, please give me some advice or something! He lives in the town of Potosi...

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  • SailSail
    edited April 2008
    If it's a small town you could call random numbers and ask if anyone knows him.

    But someone in a relationship with another person not being able to remember their last name... This can't be all too serious of a relationship.
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  • kage_rodkage_rod
    It's her first, and regardless of how serious it is, she's freaked - would be even if it was just a friend....

    Iunno, how big is Potosi? I assume it's a town (weird name, after all)
  • LusankyaLusankya
    edited April 2008
    But someone in a relationship with another person not being able to remember their last name... This can't be all too serious of a relationship.
    Agreed. I think your friend has probably been e-dumped. Yes, it sucks, but she should take a lesson from it and avoid becoming too attached to someone she barely knows.
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  • jccjcc
    edited April 2008
    If the number was a landline rather than a cell phone, run a reverse lookup. Potosi has less than 4,000 people in it, if wiki info can be considered accurate. Does he work there? If your friend can remember the name of the deli, it shouldn't be too hard to find.
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  • kage_rodkage_rod
    He never mentioned the name of the deli - they both hate their jobs so they tend to avoid the topic... There's two in the place... wtf?

    The town has approximately 2000 people, and when I looked up the address with Google Earth I got a farm area...
    But someone in a relationship with another person not being able to remember their last name... This can't be all too serious of a relationship.
    Agreed. I think your friend has probably been e-dumped. Yes, it sucks, but she should take a lesson from it and avoid becoming too attached to someone she barely knows.
    I would, but .. she's both scared. Both her best friends (me and another girl) also have his email, but this is extreme - to get rid of his phone number, block a bunch of people on his list, ignore desperate emails trying to find out if he's just alive - just to dump someone? She's hardly stalkerish - if anything, he was the one that had the potential to be a stalker, being mushy and kinda clingy. I don't care if he e-dumped her or whatever - I'll deal with the wish to kick his ass later - right now I'm just concerned. I don't care an iota about the dude, but my friend is gonna have a hernia.
  • KilarneyKilarney
    edited April 2008
    She's violated some real safety protocols. Inviting someone to your graduation, when you don't even know their last name is pretty scary. Deleting chat logs suggests that there is something worth hiding. Again, pretty scary.

    You have to understand that she is not the only person in this guy's life. Therefore, if he really is hurt, somebody else is going to notice. (Unless he's some crazy loner, which make her speaking with him all the more disturbing.) So let the people close to him deal with this. Besides, if he did get hurt, it's too late. Three weeks is a long time to be fending off zombies on your own.
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  • ......
    edited April 2008
    she deletes all her chat logs
    So why the hell does she save them at first? And I agree with those above that stated that if she still doesn't know his last name, then it's hardly serious. Good luck though.

    You know what, I think he probably told her that he would be moving soon or whatever and wouldn't have internet connection for some weeks and she just forgot and deleted the chat log.
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  • Kate MonsterKate Monster
    Does no one think he could have made up an identity to mess with her? Or that he is a child molester? Your friend should just forget about him. At best he is some random kid she talked to. At worst he is an adult that wanted to mess with her. Consider it a minor loss and move on. Tell her to get a 3D boyfriend/girlfriend and get over it.
  • Victor FrostVictor Frost
    Does no one think he could have made up an identity to mess with her? Or that he is a child molester? Your friend should just forget about him. At best he is some random kid she talked to. At worst he is an adult that wanted to mess with her. Consider it a minor loss and move on. Tell her to get a 3D boyfriend/girlfriend and get over it.
    Seconded. Don't waste time on internet relationships.
  • VigaViga
    Thirded. There's real life fish in the sea.
  • jccjcc
    I can't speak for kage's friend, but as for the other guy I can say that poor and rural do not a large dating pool make. :)
  • kage_rodkage_rod
    She has it on auto-delete so it saves space (so her pictures can take it up).

    I know it makes no sense or anything and that internet relationships are horrible, blah blah blah BUT: she really really likes him, and I just want to find him so I can give -her- some peace of mind...
  • ΣπεκωσποκΣπεκωσποκ
    Thirded. There's real life fish in the sea.
    Fourthed.

    But seriously, there's a 99.9% chance that there's no cause for concern and a 100% chance that nothing can be done about it, on her part, regardless.
  • KilarneyKilarney
    edited April 2008
    and I just want to find him so I can give -her- some peace of mind...
    It won't. He's either dead or he dumped her. Neither will bring piece of mind. But +5 to you for wanting to be a good friend.
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  • GunfireGunfire

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  • SailSail
    MC Lars is awesome. Waiting desperately for a new album...
  • kage_rodkage_rod
    That is an awesome song. ^_^

    Thank you for your help, everyone. *bows* I'll find him somehow, anyway.
  • GunfireGunfire
    MC Lars is awesome. Waiting desperately for a new album...
    Me too. I was going to see him at Cafe Du Nord in San Francisco, but couldn't make it.
  • ......
    Ignore the images; the song is great.
    Gah, I couldn't find a decent vid for that song. MC Lars is good indeed.
    She has it on auto-delete so it saves space (so her pictures can take it up).
    SO WHY THE HELL DOES SHE SAVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE!? You can turn that option OFF! Auto-deleting them is stupid, just don't save them in the first place if you don't want them. Hell, that's even a very stupid thing to do, especially on a Windows computer. Fragmentation for one.
  • RymRym
    SO WHY THE HELL DOES SHE SAVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE!?
    Heh.. Personally, I log anything and everything I say online. I have chat logs from the very first time I ever messaged Scott. ("Hey, It's Rym, that guy from the gaming club with the long hair. Wanna get Gracies?")

    My ICQ logs date back to 1996...
  • VigaViga
    MC Lars is awesome. Waiting desperately for a new album...
    +1 on that. I loved his last one.
  • ......
    SO WHY THE HELL DOES SHE SAVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE!?
    Heh.. Personally, I log anything and everything I say online. I have chat logs from the very first time I ever messaged Scott. ("Hey, It's Rym, that guy from the gaming club with the long hair. Wanna get Gracies?")

    My ICQ logs date back to 1996...
    Yeah, I too have a ton of logs somewhere, haven't bothered checking Pidgin's logs, but I think I turned those on. My problem however is that she turns on the auto-logging feature, and then deletes them! You have to agree that's just a stupid waste of time and HD life.
  • NeitoNeito
    I log everything, and one day I'm going to go through and make an "epic conversations" page.
  • kage_rodkage_rod
    Yeah, I too have a ton of logs somewhere, haven't bothered checking Pidgin's logs, but I think I turned those on. My problem however is that she turns on the auto-logging feature, and then deletes them! You have to agree that's just a stupid waste of time and HD life.
    It's called being a n00b. She just uses the settin' of the MSN. *Shrugs* I have no idea if it is auto-delete or not, to be honest, but that's the word I use for it.
  • SailSail
    Personally, I log anything and everything I say online.
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