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Ladder theory of relationships! (old school goodness!)
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/ (don't worry not a porn site)
I figured I'd post this Link to the wonderful and interesting Ladder theory on relationships which lead to many lively discussions with the front row crew.
I think since it has been a few years since it has been discussed a revisit is in order and whether our post college self's still consider ourselves disciples of the ladder! With the added bonus of all the extra minds discussing the topic!
I figured I'd post this Link to the wonderful and interesting Ladder theory on relationships which lead to many lively discussions with the front row crew.
I think since it has been a few years since it has been discussed a revisit is in order and whether our post college self's still consider ourselves disciples of the ladder! With the added bonus of all the extra minds discussing the topic!
Comments
That was definitely worth the read.
Well, I'm fucked.
Or, well, not fucked, as it were.
First off, cuddle bitches are bad, bad things to be. Maybe the worst thing to be. I mean, being an Intellectual Whore is bad, but being an Intellectual Whore who has to endure blue-balls is bordering on criminal.
As to how it fits into the framework of the ladder.
Basically this is just a guy who has a very high position on the friends ladder. So far up the friends ladder that he gets the dubious honor of getting to provide all the intimacy that a girl is missing when she's off fucking guys who basically don't care about her like outlaw bikers and band members. So he gets to be the proxy father/confessor/friend/teddy bear for her, depending on what she is missing at the time. Perhaps the only consolation of this is a ladder jump to the real ladder seems statistically a little more likely to succeed. Of course, when one is that high up the fall is dreadful indeed....
How do we know this? Well, if a woman had a nice loving boyfriend then he would be doing all the cuddling and whatnot and likely wouldn't stand for a woman maintaining a stable of cuddle bitches. Unless he's completelty pussified, in which case she's likely fucking some other people anyway.
For guys unacquainted with Ladder Theory, it is even worse. The cuddle bitch often thinks he is on the good ladder as opposed to the real ladder. So he gets all excited about his position instead of realizing he is being completely used. So this poor tool is really setting himself up for a fall at that point.
Note: This does not apply if cuddling under the influence of mushrooms, for the express purposes of avoiding hypothermia, or if the woman is a whore that you've recently paid for sex. Cuddling is perfectly acceptable and probably non-sexual in these circumstances. "
D'oh!
It is, however, a very interesting read in terms of looking for its manifestations in real life. Basically, it's a nice way to inform yourself of when you're in the cuddle bitch position, or when you really have no chance of making a desired relationship come to fruition.
I may also stress not to have kids and get married. There's nothing good waiting on that road, believe me.
EDIT: Hell, just making a move at all can put you on that ladder more often than you would think.
As Morpheus would say, she can only show you the ladder; you must climb the rungs.
Okay, I am not going to kick you, because if I wanted to, I should have done it 3 years ago.