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Advice would be appreciated
Due to the lack of jobs in Rochester, I'm moving away for a while. I was scheduled to move out yesterday, but there was something of a mishap. Here's what happened:
According to three of my housemates (Sam, Monica, and Robert), my landlord (Gary) called them Saturday saying that I had vacated, and that they should move my stuff out of the house. I had paid my last month's (Feb) rent, and was scheduled to move out Sunday. When I got home Sunday, I discovered most of my stuff on the porch, with a few items missing. These are an iPhone, a DS, and my external hard drive, which contains all of my data, movies, etc. It seems that three of the housemates (Sam, Monica, and Bill) had moved all of my stuff out, then someone (unknown) had moved my computers down to the basement.
I called the police over, and they said that it was a civil matter, and that they couldn't do anything. I'm not sure what to do next.
Are the three housemates that moved my stuff legally responsible for anything lost/stolen? I know one of them stole my DS, because I found a cellphone charm that had been carefully taken off of it. This would seem to imply intent (stealing) rather than carelessness (misplacing).
How should I go about suing them, and/or the landlord?
Besides being pissed off at them moving my stuff, I'm also worried that they destroyed my desktop. I haven't plugged it in and tested it yet.
Maybe I should put this in "Fail of your day"? Hah.
According to three of my housemates (Sam, Monica, and Robert), my landlord (Gary) called them Saturday saying that I had vacated, and that they should move my stuff out of the house. I had paid my last month's (Feb) rent, and was scheduled to move out Sunday. When I got home Sunday, I discovered most of my stuff on the porch, with a few items missing. These are an iPhone, a DS, and my external hard drive, which contains all of my data, movies, etc. It seems that three of the housemates (Sam, Monica, and Bill) had moved all of my stuff out, then someone (unknown) had moved my computers down to the basement.
I called the police over, and they said that it was a civil matter, and that they couldn't do anything. I'm not sure what to do next.
Are the three housemates that moved my stuff legally responsible for anything lost/stolen? I know one of them stole my DS, because I found a cellphone charm that had been carefully taken off of it. This would seem to imply intent (stealing) rather than carelessness (misplacing).
How should I go about suing them, and/or the landlord?
Besides being pissed off at them moving my stuff, I'm also worried that they destroyed my desktop. I haven't plugged it in and tested it yet.
Maybe I should put this in "Fail of your day"? Hah.
Comments
Edit: Get pictures of the desktop PC, video of trying to turn it on might help too.
Good luck in trying to get this all sorted out. That really sucks.
Scientifically, he is dead. Your attendance or lack of attendance at his wake will not affect him in any way, shape, or form.
Psychologically, you are still alive. Your attendance or lack of attendance at his wake, at this time, can only affect you. The best thing you can do is visualize the time after the wake after having made one choice, and then again after having made the other. How do you feel inside, knowing you did not go, and will never have a chance for that sort of connection with him? Same question again, knowing that you did in fact go to the wake?
You might feel some problem of closure. You didn't respond to the letter. Will attending the wake help you get closure, as a personal way of responding to that letter? If you don't attend the wake, could visiting the grave on your own terms work, or are there other options you might pursue?
Sociologically, there might be other factors. Visualize the people who would be there, and what they would think if you did or did not attend. Visualize any mutual connections you might have, and how your decision would affect the relationships (if at all).
Once you've felt your way through the consequences of both actions, then you must choose which action is best for you.
I personally do not feel anyone else can answer Yes or No to that question (even though others have done so). You have to judge whether it will harm you more to attend or to not attend.
Showing up at the wake might just symbolically be your way of forgiving him, which might help you let go of the past a little more. Plus, it would be a mitzvah, especially if he has surviving family, and especially if he died young (ie, if his parents are still around . . . it's unspeakably horrible for parents to lose a child). A good showing at the wake can mean a lot. You don't even have to say anything if you don't feel you can, just show up.
There are wakes/funerals/etc I regret missing. I have never once regretted showing up. True. But dude asked for advice, so he's gettin' it.
EDIT: And hey, square dancing isn't so bad.