I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt here since I know you aren't trying to be offensive but "twink" doesn't mean anything near what you think it means and I'd really discourage you from calling anyone that.
No, it was definitely not my intention to be offensive. But yes, I do know what "twink" means - unless different gay communities use the same terms to refer to different things - and at least here in the Albany, those people I know who identify as such are very very obviously so.
No offense intended; I was speaking from my personal perspective based on the community where I live.
It's one thing to self identify as something, it's fine to own a term that's otherwise not positive, that doesn't make it any less impolite <_<
Referring to someone as a twink, in addition to describing someone of a particular age (I'm a little flattered though, since I'm way too old to be a twink anymore) and appearance, also has the strong inference that they don't deserve any regard and are basically just sexual fodder.
I can't really think of a good equivalent it might have to compare it to though, a female twink would be somewhere between a slut and a "dumb blonde".
It's one thing to self identify as something, it's fine to own a term that's otherwise not positive, that doesn't make it any less impolite <_<</p>
I get that. I'm generally in the habit of using the language that a person uses themselves, but I do recognize when a group wants to sort of "own" a particular word.
As I said, no offense intended. What you're saying makes sense to me, but that simply hasn't been experience in the gay community with which I interact. I'll refrain from carelessly tossing around slang.
I have a great deal of empathy for how tricky it can be to maneuver with someone when you don't know exactly what's okay or not okay to say, sometimes
What you're saying makes sense to me, but that simply hasn't been experience in the gay community with which I interact. I'll refrain from carelessly tossing around slang.
Again, self-labeling yourself as a twink is pretty common everywhere if that's the kind of attention you're looking to get (mainly the sexual kind) so it's not a slang, per se. You just had the general definition off a bit.
Referring to someone as a twink, in addition to describing someone of a particular age (I'm a little flattered though, since I'm way too old to be a twink anymore) and appearance, also has the strong inference that they don't deserve any regard and are basically just sexual fodder.
I can't really think of a good equivalent it might have to compare it to though, a female twink would be somewhere between a slut and a "dumb blonde".
Interesting. That makes sense, and there is some mention of that on Urban Dictionary, so I'll take your word for it.
Nonetheless:
Now you're "that gay guy who takes himself way too seriously".
If you don't take yourself seriously no one else will.
To quote the inimitable FZ, and to paraphrase my own philosophy:
"I think it's really tragic when people get serious about stuff. It's such an absurdity to take anything really seriously ... I make an honest attempt not to take anything seriously: I worked that attitude out about the time I was eighteen, I mean, what does it all mean when you get right down to it, what's the story here? Being alive is so weird."
I have seen almost every filmed version of Jane Austen books ever made. I love Engelbert Humperdinck, Neil Diamond, Tom Jones, Abba, etc. Just because something is light and fluffy doesn't mean it is entirely lacking in merit or entertainment value.
Kate, these aren't bad things. I love ABBA and "Pride and Predjudice" was a good movie.
And if you post prog-metal or something then touche I guess.
Well, I was going to go straight for the throat and toss out Mirrorthrone - an avant garde progressive symphonic black metal solo project - but if you'll buckle at prog-metal, I'll just stick to Mastodon, Between the Buried and Me, 3, Dream Theater, and, well, everyone.
Metal got way worse when it didn't incorporate blues anymore.
No, it finally broke free of 12-bar shackles!
I kid. I like blues and blues metal; however, metal didn't really become metal (as a separate entity from hard rock) until it minimized the blues influence.
And now, we get wonderful fusions like the Diablo Swing Orchestra.
Metal got way worse when it didn't incorporate blues anymore.
No, it finally broke free of 12-bar shackles!
I kid. I like blues and blues metal; however, metal didn't really become metal (as a separate entity from hard rock) until it minimized the blues influence.
And now, we get wonderful fusions like the Diablo Swing Orchestra.
That's why I can't listen to metal anymore, plus the fans are all neckbeards now.
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No offense intended; I was speaking from my personal perspective based on the community where I live.
Referring to someone as a twink, in addition to describing someone of a particular age (I'm a little flattered though, since I'm way too old to be a twink anymore) and appearance, also has the strong inference that they don't deserve any regard and are basically just sexual fodder.
I can't really think of a good equivalent it might have to compare it to though, a female twink would be somewhere between a slut and a "dumb blonde".
I love the 6 hour Pride and Prejudice mini-series. A lot. Like a lot a lot.
As I said, no offense intended. What you're saying makes sense to me, but that simply hasn't been experience in the gay community with which I interact. I'll refrain from carelessly tossing around slang.
Nonetheless:
I figured your secret shame is you don't actually like all that Metal you say you like and were just liking it to feel special.
"I think it's really tragic when people get serious about stuff. It's such an absurdity to take anything really seriously ... I make an honest attempt not to take anything seriously: I worked that attitude out about the time I was eighteen, I mean, what does it all mean when you get right down to it, what's the story here? Being alive is so weird."
People still think I'm srs bsns, though.
Even bigger secret shame: I haven't liked Slayer for 6 years now.
Also, Slayer has effectively made the same album for the last three albums. That kind of stagnation drives me crazy.
I kid. I like blues and blues metal; however, metal didn't really become metal (as a separate entity from hard rock) until it minimized the blues influence.
And now, we get wonderful fusions like the Diablo Swing Orchestra.
Also, the Beatles were never good. Important, yes. Good, no.
Hendrix is overrated. Again, important but not good.
Jonathan Coulton's music is lame. Hey, I shaved this morning!
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Secret shame: Ethan Frome is actually my favorite book.