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Posted By: Loganator456Posted By: lackofcheesePosted By: Loganator456Flirting is fun and all, but there is a definite line.Where?That's a whole other argument, if you want to discuss it further then make a new thread.
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I can name one - if it's unwanted - but while that is great in theory, the best you can get in practice is an approximation. Plus, "want" is not binary, it's not a choice between "DO NOT WANT" and "DO WANT." Agreed. However, you can also cross the line without being told to fuck off in no uncertain terms: So if they're socially inept to the point of missing the obvious signs it isn't harassment?
EDIT: You wanted a definite line though? When the other party is clearly disinterested and ignoring you yet you still bother them constantly. That's harrasment.
EDIT: Clear to whom? What does "disinterested" mean for a human being?
Perhaps people should take a systematic solution. "You are about to execute a physical dialogue. Do you wish to continue?" I would have to wear a t-shirt that said ROOT.
My point is that there are plenty of shades of grey, even though there's areas that are unequivocally white, and unequivocally black. Yes, and not only does it vary with the person, but also with a whole bunch of other factors. What if the person you're flirting with has somewhere else to go right now but is responding positively? Do they want to be flirted with? The answer is that it depends.
You also have to take into account that when a person says "no", they really mean "yes".
From a selfish perspective, though, it makes sense to avoid but in such a case the decision depends on the expected level of trouble vs the potential for win.
I know that most, if not everyone, on this forum is aware of this, but I have personal exeprence that indicates that even intelligent, usually upstanding people can cross that line. Regardless of trouble, would you really want to involve yourself with someone that would cheat and are you okay with being the kind of person that facilitates that behavior (even if the other person is in a bad relationship)?
I know if I flirted back, asked if her boyfriend was OK with it, and heard something dismissive like, "Oh, he doesn't matter," or, "Don't worry about him," or something like that, I'd be immediately disinclined to proceed unless I knew something about the couple that would allow for that sort of thing. When it comes to strangers, I make no assumptions.
If the person cannot speak up and assert the rules of their own relationship, then there is no reason to think they would be able to assert the rules of a relationship with you. This is a recipe for drama.
Flirting is great fun, and as long as everyone involved is OK with the direction it goes, then go ahead and flirt away. If you get uncomfortable with the direction it's going, then just stop. You know what I've learned about people who say "no" when they mean "yes," or who say "yes" when they should be saying "no?" They're not worth your time. Move along. Say "no" when you mean "no" and "yes" when you mean "yes," unless you're doing some sort of roleplaying or some such thing. Flirting is best done by being indirect rather than being outright contradictory.
People who are too stupid to communicate properly should be punished by literal interpretation.
Maybe I just don't associate with retards.
Edit - Clarified my point.