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Apart From Breasts and Man Parts...
What about all the inside parts you like in a person you would date?
I like someone who is smart and knows more than me about things. Mostly because I like to learn from people. They have to be a geek of something. Not necessarily an anime geek, but it does help if they are an anime fan. I like artsy boys but I also like tech heads as well. Someone who gives me confidence when I'm feeling low. Someone who I can talk to about topics or events my friends aren't really into. Someone that can keep up with me or I have to keep up with. I like them straightforward with their thoughts and feelings and someone who cools me down if I'm angry. I also love it when a guy needs me.
Ahh~ Now I really can't wait for my love to get home.
I like someone who is smart and knows more than me about things. Mostly because I like to learn from people. They have to be a geek of something. Not necessarily an anime geek, but it does help if they are an anime fan. I like artsy boys but I also like tech heads as well. Someone who gives me confidence when I'm feeling low. Someone who I can talk to about topics or events my friends aren't really into. Someone that can keep up with me or I have to keep up with. I like them straightforward with their thoughts and feelings and someone who cools me down if I'm angry. I also love it when a guy needs me.
Ahh~ Now I really can't wait for my love to get home.
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Confidence also wins the day; I've heard more than one otherwise attractive girl say something like "I don't know what to talk about around all you smart people," and let me tell you, that's a boner killer right there. I understand that having healthy relationships is an excellent way to actually build up one's confidence, but I'm past the point in my life where I'm interested in fixing people. Get some confidence, express some desires, have some opinions, and then get back to me. It's part of being mature.
It also helps if she has actual musical preferences. I know a lot of people who say "Oh, I listen to pretty much anything;" that, to me, signals somebody who lacks the confidence to have an opinion and to express that opinion.
I don't need a girl who's an atheist, but if they're religious, they have to be at least open to discussion on the topic. They have to be otherwise reasonable except for believing in an invisible sky man. If you actually believe that there's a Hell, and you believe that you'll really go there if you don't lead a good life, then I'm most likely not going to be interested.
I'm also a fan of challenging all of these ideas at all times. Relationships are inherently personal, and as such, I find that applying (too many) strict rules is a bad thing, and being unwilling to challenge what you think you already know about relationships is also a bad thing. Ultimately, relationships help us grow as people, and you can't grow unless you're willing to explore everywhere, including places you don't want (or think you don't want) to go.
That doesn't mean that you should date somebody who's physically abusive just because you've never been abused. I don't need to stab myself in the eye with a pencil to be reasonably assured that it's a bad thing. But, for example, I have a "rule" about not dating coworkers (now, at least). That doesn't mean I'll never date a coworker. My theories change as I gather new data and test new hypotheses.
So, to sum up: It's complicated.
I think I just want a girl from XKCD...
Emotionally available.
Has passions I don't share.
Has passions I do share.
Has goals in life.
Cares about her appearance.
Is confident.
Has own friends.
Is clever.
Is funny.
There were many more points, but these are some I remember.
Honestly, common interests aren't that important to me. They help, of course, but I tend to like people that just seem pure and honest. Integrity is hawt.
That is hot.
Also, I have no car or driver's license. How could I do anything with her? It's not very practical...
You all disgust me.
I meant she doesn't like me romantically. She says she likes cute guitar players...I fit neither of those.
As for public transport...We live in Rochester, NY. Public transportation is nonexistent in the town of Irondequoit where we live.
God, I wish the internet had sarcasm detectors. I knew you were poking fun at what I had said before, but I wasn't sure if you were trying to make a point.
The only advice I can think to give you is to tell you to be less awkward near her and start hanging out with her in RL. Everyone here is going to tell you to go for it, but I know how hard that can be. The most important thing for you right now is to be less awkward and to build some real self-confidence. Maybe ask her to go to a movie with you and some friends, so it's not a date but you can still talk to her.