A person can be realistic and safeguard against future pitfalls without being cynical and assuming/expecting that those they are dealing with will screw them.
But accurate assessment means that you:
1) expect someone to attempt to screw you 2) prepare for the inevitability 3) are actually attemptedly screwed
Is it wrong to expect someone to screw you when they do in fact attempt to screw you exactly as expected?
I categorize people into several groups based on my information when doing dealings:
1) Will actively try to harm me (active pre-emptive measures) 2) Is likely to fail or harm me (active preventative measures) 3) Neutral (standard precautions, low expectations) 4) Will likely succeed (standard precautions) 5) Will definitely succeed (zero precautions)
My planning for the inevitable failure of others has done me very, very well in my life. ^_~
My planning for the inevitable failure of others has done me very, very well in my life. ^_~
Rym, I advocate taking precautions and being realistic that situations can and will go wrong, that really isn't the same as being jaded. Being jaded is the attitude with which someone approaches the situation. My motto is: "Plan for the worst, but hope for the best." Reality usually comes out somewhere in between. ^_~
If you are interested in mediation or arbitration, you better find out the difference between the two. They are not the same.
QFT! Look into the various programs available in the state/county/town that you can avail yourself off and determine if they are actually preferable to a small claims matter. Some mediation and arbitration programs cost quite a bit more than filing a small claims action.
Some small claims courts will send you to mediation right after the Complaint and Answer are filed before they'll even consider setting a hearing date.
Mediation is not a very predictable process. Variables include the intransigence of the parties, the actual dispute (mediation usually works in divorces, but personal injury is usually a lot harder to mediate), and the skill and motivation of the mediator.
Sex or paperwork? Sex or paperwork? I JUST CAN'T DECIDE!
You can file me under "S" for "studmuffin." Awwwwwwwwwwww yeah.
How about file me with "B"! Because I'll be Betw-....yeah I shouldn't say that.
You know, I think this made me a little more jaded, but a little less naive. Kind of like when Rym trusted People not to steal his bike and they did.
Don't be jaded. Just use the information to safeguard yourself in the future. Naivete is terrible, but so is being jaded.
YES! THIS! DO THAT! People will dick someone over and it sucks that this is happening to you. You leanred something from it, know what to do from here and you're gonna do it! Jaded-ness is like 2 inches to minor dick-ness.
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1) expect someone to attempt to screw you
2) prepare for the inevitability
3) are actually attemptedly screwed
Is it wrong to expect someone to screw you when they do in fact attempt to screw you exactly as expected?
I categorize people into several groups based on my information when doing dealings:
1) Will actively try to harm me (active pre-emptive measures)
2) Is likely to fail or harm me (active preventative measures)
3) Neutral (standard precautions, low expectations)
4) Will likely succeed (standard precautions)
5) Will definitely succeed (zero precautions)
My planning for the inevitable failure of others has done me very, very well in my life. ^_~
That is, of course, only applicable to my leases. If that were my boyfriend motto, I'm pretty sure Pete would slit my throat in my sleep.
Just sayin'.
EDIT: Also, Nuri, if you want to start providing every complaint in writing, I can deal with that. It may lead to less complaining overall.
Besides, most of my complaints to you aren't about you.
Mediation is not a very predictable process. Variables include the intransigence of the parties, the actual dispute (mediation usually works in divorces, but personal injury is usually a lot harder to mediate), and the skill and motivation of the mediator.
Why can't it be both? "Mr. Notoriety, get over here and stamp the hell out of this!"