And "something sweet". She'll often send me out for "something sweet". She'll never say exactly what. So I'll end up at a store thinking, "Does she want Ring Dings? Mallomars? Milanos? WHAT?!!"
I get back at my wife on that one. She asks me what I want for dinner and I tell her "food". When she bugs me to be more specific I remind her of the old movie "Repoman" where rather than have corporate food sponsors whenever a character in the movie needed a food item it was always in a white container marked Food, Beer, Soda, whatever.
I'll second that. I could eat chicken or meatloaf or whatever all week. She seems to think there has to be some sort of variety all the time and likes to worry about it. I'll eat whatever you put in front of me if you're cooking. If you want me to cook, it'll be bacon sandwiches and fried potatoes. If you want to go out, I'll eat anything at the first place we stop. Why does it have to be so hard?
This really is the crooks of the matter I think. Women need to feel needed. When they're feeling the need to feel needed, they 'test' you. They're setting you up to succeed at being a good husband/boyfriend/friend!
Mr. Hammer meat Mr. Nail. Mr. Nail: Hi Mr. Hammer: I'm gonna hit you on the head! Mr. Nail: Ow!
I get back at my wife on that one. She asks me what I want for dinner and I tell her "food".
Hahaha! OMG, I can only think of how many times that conversation has happened with my boyfriend and I. I'm so guilty of this because basically, before I even ask that question, I already have in my mind what I already want to eat. I'm just seeing what he's thinking , just in case he has a better idea. It gets frustrating at times, because sometimes, even I won't know what to eat for dinner, and it would be nice to get input. Eventually we come to some sort of agreement that we're both too lazy to cook and just get takeout.
My wife gives me such a hard time about going out to eat. Granted I suffer from a seriously restrictive diet but... I think the thing is that for her its not about going out as much as it is about me telling her where we will eat. Which I think is real funny because when I tell her what to do in every other instance all I get is a dirty look.
Same thing with cooking. I would happy if someone invented those four course meal pills from the Jetsons. I really do not care what I eat as long as it satisfies the function of providing energy to my body.
"Nothing." Guys can actually be thinking of nothing.
Same thing with cooking. I would happy if someone invented those four course meal pills from the Jetsons. I really do not care what I eat as long as it satisfies the function of providing energy to my body.
Not me. I like food a lot. I'm not picky because I like everything so much I'm easily satisfied.
It's really unfair to act like you don't love doing these things for the woman you care about because you're going to make the other women in the 'room' feel guilty for wanting these very things. Just admit it! You love doing things like that for your wife. When you get it right, it makes you feel just as good as it makes her feel.
Hear, hear! I love doing things for others, especially when it comes to significant others. It actually a big vice I have. I love to spoil guys. I've been notoriously labeled as a "Suga Momma". -_- I'd like to think I'm getting better at this and have been watching my budget and not frivolously buying stuff for my boyfriend, however, I honestly enjoy doing things for him. Just for the satisfaction of knowing I did something for someone that made them happy.
"Nothing." Guys can actually be thinking of nothing.
Guys aim for thinking nothing. I can get deep here but it's the 'ultimate release' that only men can feel (yes I mean it that way). Women have always going minds, always multitasking while we can turn it off.
I'm reminded of an analogy I heard once: Womens minds are like windows computers with pop-ups always coming up and you can't close them. They just keep filing up the screen.
OK so I had my wife read this thread. Here's the response we got from her:
Wife: It's like when I say "Do you want some coffee?" . . . in my head I want coffee. I'm asking you but I still want coffee. Me: Yeah. It's a mini-damsel-in-distress moment. You could just say "Hey let's go get coffee" but you want me to 'rescue you' be solving the coffee drought problem. Wife: Hot
OK so I had my wife read this thread. Here's the response we got from her:
Wife:It's like when I say "Do you want some coffee?" . . . in my head I want coffee. I'm asking you but I still want coffee. Me:Yeah. It's a mini-damsel-in-distress moment. You could just say "Hey let's go get coffee" but you want me to 'rescue you' be solving the coffee drought problem. Wife:Hot
That's very alien to me. I like directness much better. If I want coffee, I get coffee.
That's very alien to me. I like directness much better.
And that's why Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.
ZING! Hahaha, sorry, couldn't help it. But, if it's honestly something you can do, tell your wife to just be direct about stuff, and things will hopefully get accomplished.
That's very alien to me. I like directness much better.
Is it alien to your experience? Really? I find that hard to believe.
Directness has it's place. Maybe it's because I'm young and idealistic but I still like putting on the shining armor every once in a while; even if it is just to get coffee or Mallomars.
I'm reminded of an analogy I heard once: Womens minds are like windows computers with pop-ups always coming up and you can't close them. They just keep filing up the screen.
Is that why they're always working? At the end of the day, I can just sit. I don't feel the need to do laundry, iron, vacuum or whatever other bizarre thing.
. . . sorry, couldn't help it. But, if it's honestly something you can do, tell your wife to just be direct about stuff, and things will hopefully get accomplished.
It's not like it's a problem or anything. It's just something I notice every now and then.
I'm reminded of an analogy I heard once: Womens minds are like windows computers with pop-ups always coming up and you can't close them. They just keep filing up the screen.
Is that why they're always working? At then end of the day, I can just sit. I don't feel the need to do laundry, iron, vacuum or whatever other bizarre thing.
Yep. They flit about while we stare at the wall. They can't close the 'laundry pop-up' until the laundry is done. We just close it and move on.
Is that why they're always working? At then end of the day, I can just sit. I don't feel the need to do laundry, iron, vacuum or whatever other bizarre thing.
Yes. It's because we have been trained that there is *always* something that needs to be done when it comes to housework. However, I'll occasionally leave the dishes for him to do it, and just do absolutely nothing but veg out.
Yes. It's because we have been trained that there is*always*something that needs to be done when it comes to housework. However, I'll occasionally leave the dishes for him to do it, and just do absolutely nothing but veg out.
I had this case once before a woman judge. We had a break and I went back into her chambers. She was outside in the secretary's office/kitchenette putting away dishes. She saw me and said that it made her feel better when she was stressed to clean things up. Weird.
That is weird, but at the same time, I can see why she was doing that. I guess when I finish housework, I enjoy the feeling of accomplishment in a clean home. Makes me feel like my "Suzy-homemaker" skills aren't as bad as I thought they were. Plus, I'd rather relax in a clean place than a pigsty. Don't get me wrong, I have many messy vices. I am pretty lazy when it comes to putting away clothes. I just leave them in the dryer and never hang them up.
My guess is that that judge is doing something like dishes is because it's so trivial versus what she does, and also goes over her stresses when she's doing the dishes. By the time she's done with the dishes, her stresses are either resolved or she at least feels better for getting something accomplished. I dunno. My own weird thinking. ^^;;
You sure have a way of putting a somewhat mean spin on this subject.
Not mean, just a little confused.
Carole's been playing this "Nanny" flash game she found. The player moves a Nanny around a SIMS-like house and does housework. That's not a game! That's work!
I had this case once before a woman judge. We had a break and I went back into her chambers. She was outside in the secretary's office/kitchenette putting away dishes. She saw me and said that it made her feel better when she was stressed to clean things up. Weird.
You're stereotyping in a connection between a female judge and putting away dishes as a method of stress relief. Individual anecdotes are pretty much useless in talking about such a large group as really what you saw was one person as opposed to and average of the entire female population. It is my belief that while stereotypes have some basis in differences in basic behavior most of the perceived differences between men and women are down to society.
I had this case once before a woman judge. We had a break and I went back into her chambers. She was outside in the secretary's office/kitchenette putting away dishes. She saw me and said that it made her feel better when she was stressed to clean things up. Weird.
You're stereotyping in a connection between a female judge and putting away dishes as a method of stress relief. Individual anecdotes are pretty much useless in talking about such a large group as really what you saw was one person as opposed to and average of the entire female population. It is my belief that while stereotypes have some basis in differences in basic behavior most of the perceived differences between men and women are down to society.
I'm not stereotyping anything. I reported what I saw and what I heard. She SAID that cleaning up helped her stress. I didn't infer that from her actions. The only opinion that I expressed was that I found it to be weird.
Please. I would expect someone from the mother country to have a little more talent in reading for comprehension.
Hmmm. After reading this thread it seems like most women are strange and not direct. They seem strange to me since I wasn't brought up around average women and people say I think like a guy. Weird. Either that or wives are weird in general. This might be one of those topics I wont know until I'm older although I'm a woman.
Hmmm. After reading this thread it seems like most women are strange and not direct. They seem strange to me since I wasn't brought up around average women and people say I think like a guy. Weird. Either that or wives are weird in general. This might be one of those topics I wont know until I'm older although I'm a woman.
I wish my wife thought like a guy, then again we'd probably just end up having sex all day and living in a mess...
Hmmm. After reading this thread it seems like most women are strange and not direct. They seem strange to me since I wasn't brought up around average women and people say I think like a guy. Weird. Either that or wives are weird in general. This might be one of those topics I wont know until I'm older although I'm a woman.
I wish my wife thought like a guy, then again we'd probably just end up having sex all day and living in a mess...
If I was attached that'd seem likely for my type of life. Just add major geekery.
Hmmm. After reading this thread it seems like most women are strange and not direct. They seem strange to me since I wasn't brought up around average women and people say I think like a guy. Weird. Either that or wives are weird in general. This might be one of those topics I wont know until I'm older although I'm a woman.
Indeed. Upbringing can be telling. I knew a guy in school who was raised in a house full of women with no male influences. He was straight, but he acted as queer as a football bat.
I wish my wife thought like a guy, then again we'd probably just end up having sex all day and living in a mess...
Wouldn't it be great if two guys could just live together like a couple of guys, never have weird misunderstandings because they communicated differently, and occasionally shagged each other?
Wouldn't it be great if two guys could just live together like a couple of guys, never have weird misunderstandings because they communicated differently, and occasionally shagged each other?
Shhh! They might hear you. This is their forum you know. LOL.
Just kidding around! *runs*
Indeed. Upbringing can be telling. I knew a guy in school who was raised in a house full of women with no male influences. He was straight, but heactedas queer as a football bat.
Queer as a football bat! That made me laugh so hard.
That is true though. I knew a few guys like that in HS. Add in the fact that my company was all guys most of my life, I never had a real normal female influence.
Plus girls who beat around the bush and who aren't direct really annoy me. Men have their fair share of faults too.
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Hahaha! OMG, I can only think of how many times that conversation has happened with my boyfriend and I. I'm so guilty of this because basically, before I even ask that question, I already have in my mind what I already want to eat. I'm just seeing what he's thinking , just in case he has a better idea. It gets frustrating at times, because sometimes, even I won't know what to eat for dinner, and it would be nice to get input. Eventually we come to some sort of agreement that we're both too lazy to cook and just get takeout.
Same thing with cooking. I would happy if someone invented those four course meal pills from the Jetsons. I really do not care what I eat as long as it satisfies the function of providing energy to my body.
"Nothing." Guys can actually be thinking of nothing. Not me. I like food a lot. I'm not picky because I like everything so much I'm easily satisfied.
It is my experience that woman want to be needed while men need to be wanted.
I'm reminded of an analogy I heard once: Womens minds are like windows computers with pop-ups always coming up and you can't close them. They just keep filing up the screen.
Wife: It's like when I say "Do you want some coffee?" . . . in my head I want coffee. I'm asking you but I still want coffee.
Me: Yeah. It's a mini-damsel-in-distress moment. You could just say "Hey let's go get coffee" but you want me to 'rescue you' be solving the coffee drought problem.
Wife: Hot
ZING! Hahaha, sorry, couldn't help it. But, if it's honestly something you can do, tell your wife to just be direct about stuff, and things will hopefully get accomplished.
Directness has it's place. Maybe it's because I'm young and idealistic but I still like putting on the shining armor every once in a while; even if it is just to get coffee or Mallomars.
My guess is that that judge is doing something like dishes is because it's so trivial versus what she does, and also goes over her stresses when she's doing the dishes. By the time she's done with the dishes, her stresses are either resolved or she at least feels better for getting something accomplished. I dunno. My own weird thinking. ^^;;
Carole's been playing this "Nanny" flash game she found. The player moves a Nanny around a SIMS-like house and does housework. That's not a game! That's work!
However, thinking about it, now you made me realize how silly it is to be playing Diner Dash, but I am still entertained by it!
It is my belief that while stereotypes have some basis in differences in basic behavior most of the perceived differences between men and women are down to society.
Please. I would expect someone from the mother country to have a little more talent in reading for comprehension.
Just kidding around! *runs* Queer as a football bat! That made me laugh so hard.
That is true though. I knew a few guys like that in HS. Add in the fact that my company was all guys most of my life, I never had a real normal female influence.
Plus girls who beat around the bush and who aren't direct really annoy me. Men have their fair share of faults too.