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First Dates
I was going to start this topic in the UP thread but I think it really deserves it's own.
What are some good first date ideas you've had?
What did you do on some first dates that went well?
What did you do on some first dates from HELL?
I really don't think their is anything as the perfect first date set up. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Some people like the traditional set up: dinner and a movie. Some people are more comfortable with more casual: getting coffee and walking around that park. Some people like to be active: bikes rides, hiking, frisbee in the park. Some one will be allergic to the entire zoo and then get a head splitting migraine from that 300$ bottle of wine.
I'll pose some horror stories later. Trust me. They're some good stories.
Also, don't forget the idea of a group first date especially if you don't have a car but your friend does. I set up a triple blind date a few weeks ago. That went well.
What are some good first date ideas you've had?
What did you do on some first dates that went well?
What did you do on some first dates from HELL?
I really don't think their is anything as the perfect first date set up. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Some people like the traditional set up: dinner and a movie. Some people are more comfortable with more casual: getting coffee and walking around that park. Some people like to be active: bikes rides, hiking, frisbee in the park. Some one will be allergic to the entire zoo and then get a head splitting migraine from that 300$ bottle of wine.
I'll pose some horror stories later. Trust me. They're some good stories.
Also, don't forget the idea of a group first date especially if you don't have a car but your friend does. I set up a triple blind date a few weeks ago. That went well.
Comments
I did take out one girl on a blind date once and she saw someone she knew, but obviously didn't like. She proceeded to go over there and start a fight. Turned out the other chick was on her first date too (me and her date started talking whilst they were screaming). Eventually it got physical and neither me nor Mark (the other dude) wanted to get involved. Instead the police show up after the bouncers had got between them and arrested them both.Mark and I ended up having a guy-date, due to our actual dates being arrested. We watched football at some pub and drank beer. Good times.
Festivals are good places to go. There are generally lots of sights to see, and thus lots of things on which to comment. Depending on the person, concerts can be good; if you find a girl that's into metal, you can have a mosh pit date. :P
I honestly don't have very many interesting date stories; all of my interesting stories are the lead-up to the date itself, or things that occur after the main date activity. :P
I had a girl take me to a high-school football game. She was this really intense girl and I was this kind of listless high-school nerd, heavily into Linux and anime, unaware that girls had suddenly started liking me. Anyways, we went, I marginally enjoyed myself, her parents took us back and as she was getting out of the car she hit me with this fantastic kiss and told me we were going to homecoming together.
I would meet my next girlfriend, one of her friends, at said homecoming. Needless to say, things are awkward between us to this day.
I prefer a dinner date to talk and get to know each other. Or maybe a nice walk to the park or through the zoo. I also love museum dates. Heck, I had fun just going around the city looking for everything and nothing with someone.
I don't have much very interesting stories. I think the worst date I had was when my ex promised to treat me at Six Flags on our anniversary, but spent it on an ungodly amount of Slim Jims instead.
In contrast, I once got a phone number while drunk on a subway, and decided to wing a dinner with said girl. The place I was planning was packed, and we wandered for a while finding something, barely making conversation. (Probably the closest thing I had to a first date from hell, but, hey, I'm only 19)
Now I conclude you really should know a person before the date. Grab a lunch or coffee with them, and then make sure that "first date" is something they'll enjoy, like a museum trip, cafe (live music is an awesome incentive), or event (something you two can have a conversation during). Otherwise, my go to is Upright Citizen's Brigade Theater. The tickets are cheap, some shows are relatively short, the place tends to be full of happy couples, and if you're paying attention, you can always grab a conversation starter from the act. (but I tend to save that for the second date)
I tend not to go on dates, at least knowingly. Is a date something you do before officially declaring yourself girlfriend/boyfriend, or after? I always thought it was before, in which case I never went on dates. I always just knew the guy from school or band or something. The one exception to this is that my current boyfriend claims our first date was getting ice cream, way before we were together. I don't even remember this. :-P
But if dates count for after you're "together," then I think movies are great. Especially if its something you both really want to see. You spent lots of quality time speculating about it and being excited before hand, and then afterward you get to discuss how awesome/not awesome it was.
I've also done a "Lets go find the best milkshake stand in town" Date. We drove around for a few hours trying out who had the best ice cream. It's a good summer date, but I think it would have been better if it was more then just the two of us. OR if she hadn't been kind of bitch :P
I have had girlfriends but not dates really, I come from a country where if you can take a girl to Mc Donalds (I guess now it would be Friday's) you are considered a guy with crazy tons of money. Also, I really haven't dated really dated anyone, well some times girls invite me lunch but only because I am awesome. Well, joking aside, I really haven't much time for dating since I had to pay out of state most of my college career. Well, I back in my country I took some of them to different parties, but I did it mostly because the food was good :P
So, yeah there you have it I have never had a proper date :S
I guess I hung out with too many boys at the same time to actually say I dated in high school. Also, I guess if you count romantic involvement, my first date was sitting in the basement apartment at colony, playing puerto rico with Rym and Scott. I had a blood blister on my foot and it popped and I bled on the floor. It was really romantic.
Hey, hmm. I guess I count it as a date if you go out with a person, just the two of you, and there is flirty touching, like snuggling, or holding hands. Or a kiss. If they kiss you at the end, it's a date, for sure.
I like to do things that are:
a) geeky
b) not too expensive
c) different from everyday stuff
Dinner out is fine, and can be fun, but it's not a terribly unique activity. I would actually much rather have someone cook dinner at home for me than go out (assuming they can cook). However, taking someone to your home on a first date may not be the wisest choice.
Cons work well too, if both of you are NOT working the con in any capacity. There is a lot of opportunity for good conversation, either between daytime events or at night in the hotel. Not that I recommend sharing hotel rooms with complete strangers you met over the internet, but it has been known to work before.
Comedy clubs can be good for first dates.
Some activities I have done on dates that worked out great:
- Horseback riding
- Row boating on a pretty lake/river
- Picnic (my favorite picnic date EVER was a midnight picnic with candle light and a battery powered boom box - just make sure some of the candle are citronella or bugs with ruin the whole experience)
- Museums/Planetariums/Zoos/Aquariums
- Live theatre
- Laser Tag
- Go-carts
The best "dates" are when you can do practically nothing with someone and still have a great time. This is difficult for a first date, though.
I do think that people need to be very self-aware to make the decision to have or not have sexual activity on any date. Some people have baggage that make sexual stuff very complicated. Some people are fine with it provided there is no obligation attached. Others feel that sexual activity should be conditional. As XKCD so eloquently put it, "Holy shit, guys, people are complicated!"
My opinion: For me, its more like "how well do I know this person?" so you know if they are trustworthy, non-slutty, etc. You can do it on the first date and still have a long relationship, especially if you've known each other a long time.
If you are gonna have sex before marriage, don't do it on the first date. I can deal with sex before marriage if you at least love the person. Even if you don't end up marrying them, if you loved them at some point, then I understand. But sex simply for the sake of sex...That seems pointless to me.