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Tonight on GeekNights, we ramble about weddings in a general sense after having happened to have attended an enjoyable example of one. No news, no things of the day, no nothing! What's going on? Maybe Ponies got in the way...
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Geeknights has jumped the shark. I'm out of here.
Get my Wife (Laura "Your Mom") To plan your wedding.
That is all.
Keep it up at this rate and you two will regain your humanity before long.
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I think a lot of Rubin's comments about cost are related to the fact that he doesn't have to get venues for events. For example once you get over 150 people you start to get in situations where you need a lot of supplies for the people attending. Backyards and such are nice but rain can complicate matters and you might not have a yard big enough. You can get shit cratering and do it for 10 bucks a person but to get a decent buffet meal it's probably going to cost more, a whatever course meal will cost you more then that. A waiter delivered meal would be probably 30 to 40 a person while a wedding probably falls in on 60-70 (note this is cheapo prices). Personally we went for the most bang for the buck. We ran the wedding like we were running a convention and budgeted accordingly. Mainly we wanted to cover the basics (Good Food, Good Music and Open Bar) That's all you need for a fun time.
As for inviting people you don't know, the large groups of people I didn't know well (or had not seen in years) were tied to my parents. They were my parents FRC of their day. While I probably wouldn't have invited them all of them, my parents covered their costs and honestly by letting them invite them, I was helping them out so they didn't get in trouble with their friends. The biggest hassle between a "Party" and a "wedding" is the cap for invites.
Ceremony, I agree, you want to personalize your ceremony. Keep it funny and short.
Also, obviously if you want to throw any party food and such are going to be an expense. Even if you cook your own BBQ or whatever, you still have to buy a lot of meat at BJs or Costco. Most of the expenses I complain about are the unnecessary wasteful ones that are only for the sake of tradition. You can completely skip overpriced useless jewelry, tuxedos and dress rentals, fancy invitations that don't have poison envelopes, etc.
Take a lesson from ponies. Hanging out at the doughnut shop with all your friends is a better party than the Grand Galloping Gala.
You obviously have never planned a large event of any kind. ;^)
Says it all, I think!
Doing your own food and other things is great, but if you don't have the time or the help to do so your just causing yourself a lot of headaches. Obviously you are paying more to have no hassle right? Isn't that your motto?
Also more wedding pro-tips, Fuck flower center pieces, they are completely useless and a candle can do the same job and be much better.
Wedding Experience: Level Gained!
You missed the best part about Scott dancing with his Mom and the clinking. She actually reached up to plant a big smooch on him. I about died.
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Cheap and epic.
I finished the podcast. As the best man of my brother's wedding, I booked a bouncy castle. It was awesome! Not only fun for adults, but in the evening, when all the adults wanted to relax, all the kids went to hang out at the bouncy castle, and didn't get in the way. Kids at weddings in the evening are the most annoying thing in the world.
Food was scored by arranging catering from a local restaurant, and by doing a buffet style service instead of having tons of waiters and waitresses, everyone got to eat what they wanted, have multiple servings, and it kept costs way low.
We also went with sapphire engagement rings instead of diamonds, and went with more conservative wedding bands.
As far as invitations, Kate and I printed our own using Publisher, some good quality paper, and a bit of craftiness, and saved a fortune there too.
The only issues we had were my mother wanting to invite many of her friends. Most of them had known me since I was a baby, but I had literally not seen or spoken to in over a decade. I honestly wouldn't recognize them if they walked past me. This caused some grief because we wanted to keep the number of invites lower, but it put my mom in an awkward position. I caved in and invited them, and really only regretted the one woman who showed up drunk, drank the whole time, stepped on Kate's dress, and got us a shitty, shitty gift. The up side is the family friends were very generous in their gift giving.
Having run in to many of them at my sister's wedding a couple of weeks ago, it was a point of pride that almost all of them commented again that they thought our wedding was beautiful and unique, and very memorable. These people would not just say something like that to be polite about four years after the fact.
After listening to this episode I have come to firmly believe that one member of the duo is unlikely to ever get married...
We plan on having few traditions or making up one. Mostly there's Jewish wedding traditions I know a bit about and African Americans only have the broom jumping, but how to mix them. Plus having to cater to the tastes of two very different families food and music wise. Jed says screw it, it's our wedding and we are paying for it. Then I realized, fuck yeah, you are right! Anyone worried about this?
So have anyone thought of unconventional places for weddings? We looked at art galleries, clubs and I we have settled our thoughts on a Victorian style place at a train station. It works since we're into the steampunk thing ya know.