Mostly, she craves citrus. Her attitude Sunday was amazing.
As someone who is totally, crushingly addicted to citrus, I would advise you to get clementines. Small, portable, available by the crate, and peelable with one hand (a neat trick I learned from my uncle). She can then eat them while doing whatever else she wants to with the free hand.
Third, to those whinging that this "dude" is complaining about his wife and airing her business to strangers, I will kindly ask you to cool your jets. I've been on this forum four years now, and consider most of you my friends. I was really needing to turn to friends when I had no context for dealing with a problem, and I maintained my wife's anonymity out of respect. I don't think there was any grounds for criticism there, unless you're a dick. You're not a dick, are you?
UPDATE: I have found a path to victory. Sunday I discovered that feeding her tiny little snacks every 45 minutes or so kept the swings in check and softened her tone toward me significantly. The most difficult part of this is the morning. I have to make sure I wake up before she does and lay out some foods. Mostly, she craves citrus. Her attitude Sunday was amazing.
So keep her mouth too full to complain? Excellent idea!
As someone who is totally, crushingly addicted to citrus, I would advise you to get clementines. Small, portable, available by the crate, and peelable with one hand (a neat trick I learned from my uncle). She can then eat them while doing whatever else she wants to with the free hand.
Clementines? What are those? You mean the TREE CANDY I get in little crates every winter and snack on while I do computer work? The kind that Rym will bring home and I will jump up in the air out of happiness? Those things? (I love clementines and fuyu mikan. Yum!)
Clementines? What are those? You mean the TREE CRACK I get in little crates every winter and snack on while I do computer work? The kind that Rym will bring home and I will jump up in the air out of happiness? Those things? (I love clementines and fuyu mikan. Yum!)
I am awesome, but I think the people not like me just haven't decided to ramp up the awesome in their lives yet.
Kate, while some self-declared awesome people do look down on others, I must admit that judged purely on what you write in this forum, you are one of the worst offenders. Almost every third post is some kind of condemnation of someone else's attitude or statement. Seriously, you've got to lighten up a bit. You can't complain about people speaking down to others by speaking down to them.
I am one of the worst offenders? Really? Hm, okay, I will take that into consideration and review my comments. If pointing out that some, if not many, in the forum take on a smug tone makes me look smug, then I can see your point. I didn't feel I was speaking down to/patronizing/demeaning anyone - just pointing out an observed behavior and an increasingly aggravating (to me at least) tone. As I said, I know I have generalized and made biased comments in the past and that I have and continue to work on it. As for lightening up, I am light. I just try to fully articulate my point. Am I opinionated and passionate? Yes, no question; however, I am perfectly capable of discussing my opinions calmly, rationally and I make a point of saying something positive and/or am mindful of any possible hypocrisy and personal faults. If you can read the statements that I wrote in this thread and still see me as being so unreasonably and constantly negative, then so be it. If, however, you re-read all my comments in this thread and can see my full-throated support of statements that I agree with, my desire to actually be of help to someone in trouble, my support those that make different life choices, my ability to point out my own failings in regard to the very thing I criticize, and that I, at worst, complain that statements of a certain nature are tiresome and that their sum total sends a rather concerning message, then maybe you can see that I am not such a negative person after all. I have faults enough, and maybe one of them is not understanding how people interpret my comments and/or poor communication of my ideas, but I re-read my comments in the thread and I do not see anything that is particularly damning or deserving of your statement. Either way, c'est la vie.
I've been waiting for someone to bring this up and I'm going to take this opportunity to say what I have to say now. This elitism in the forums...it's gotta go away...for good. I remember there being a thread where Scott said and I quote
"You are this community. If you want this community to change. Then you have to change you. It's not my job to change you."
He couldn't be more to the point and I feel this is exactly what should happen. To date, I have not seen a single concerted effort to change this and it saddens me as I thought all you awesome people were capable of stuff like this. What I find to be worse than no change whatsoever,is that higher ups are encouraging such behavior such as Rym's high and mighty, egotistical, attitude. I'm not saying I'm exempt from this accusation (such an idea is ludicrous), but I have been trying and have been making a concerted effort to stop being like this after I was told I was being such.
Even though I totally agree with the general idea that we should keep out people who are either spammers, terrible debaters/conversationalists to the point where all they spout is gibberish, I feel we should have a more welcoming and accommodating attitude towards new forumites who may not have as strong debating or conversational skills. I feel that a vast majority of you forumites are extremely awesome in many ways, you guys are almost like a family to me and I mean that in the purest way possible. However, by that token, a non-dysfunctional family should be willing to address and work out problems that other members exhibit and are negative in some form or fashion. I feel that there never was, is, and never will be a good reason to be elitist ever as it's an unfair and unbalanced perspective and way of life. Not to mention the fact that it's also alienating to other people including new forumites. As a result of this, a lot of people who probably would have become awesome and enjoyable forumites just disappear and don't come back. After all, growth is always good (unless it's cancer or an infestation, but that's beside the point).
I cannot change you and the way you act around other people, but for the sake of the forum.......it has to stop. If you agree with what I had to say, then let's work on it together because it is possible and we can do it if we make a concerted effort. If you don't agree with me...well...I'm sorry you feel that way. So, who is with me on this?
Even though I totally agree with the general idea that we should keep out people who are either spammers, terrible debaters/conversationalists to the point where all they spout is gibberish, I feel we should have a more welcoming and accommodating attitude towards new forumites who may not have as strong debating or conversational skills.
I've always been a big proponent of this. Especially since I have a tendency to substuite words and when I post in a situation (at work) quickly I mess up posts a lot so I understand the plight of the common n00b. However, Geofino, I've noticed in the forums lately that you've been taking a lot of comments WAY out of context and suddenly been offended by them. It would help everyone if they took a marjority of the snippy remarks on the internet lightly. The Internet does not handle SARCASM or jests very well... So relax and if you have a problem, private message the person and figure out if they're really is an issue.
I've always been a big proponent of this. Especially since I have a tendency to substuite words and when I post in a situation (at work) quickly I mess up posts a lot so I understand the plight of the common n00b. However, Geofino, I've noticed in the forums lately that you've been taking a lot of comments WAY out of context and suddenly been offended by them. It would help everyone if they took a marjority of the snippy remarks on the internet lightly. The Internet does not handle SARCASM or jests very well... So relax and if you have a problem, private message the person and figure out if there really is an issue.
I have realized this problem, and have actually been engaging in said advice.
I have no idea what is going on in this thread anymore.
I really like this forum because it is filled with people who think they are awesome, and a large percentage of those that do think they are awesome back it up with awesome skills or knowledge or experiences or forum posts or awesome links to great content online. I don't think the thing I picked up on in Kate's post has anything to do with being unwelcoming to new people, as in this case she directed it at Rym, and in other cases she directs her ire at other established members of the forum.
That righteous indignation and preaching is Kate's awesome quality, and it makes the forum a more interesting and moderated place. She can take it a bit far, as in this thread, but it's not a bad thing in itself. For example, Rym replied directly to the statement that "Your wife will ignore you for 95% of the time once the baby is born" saying that is merely a projection. I saw he was being quite specific in addressing this over-generalization, but Kate's specialty is to take specifics and turn them into generalities, and then attack the generalities. As another example, a sexist joke, to Kate, becomes representative of general sexism, when it might have been a single, knowing satirical comment on sexism itself. Sexism is bad, yes, but any mention of sexism, even in a light hearted way, is fine. And in this case, Rym's comment on old-man-projection was fine, even though a general attitude of constant "I'm awesome and life will always be better for me than other people" might not be the most helpful.
But then there's a reason I didn't post pregnancy advice in this thread, because I KNOW I don't know a thing about it.
First, I do not completely agree with Yupa-Matt-Geofino on this. Some of his statements seem reasonable and some are a little... disturbing. I am fine to let the forum be what it is. If someone does something I don't like, I say so. That doesn't mean that the person I disagree with can't or even shouldn't say what they want to say in the way they want to say it. I am not a moderator and this isn't "my" forum nor is it "Geofino's" forum. If Rym, Scott and their appointed moderators want to change how the forum functions, that is there call. If you want them to change the rules, then make a strong case about how it will better the forum. If some individuals want to play nanny to new forumites and others aren't as soft in their approach, so be it. I guess my point is "Freedom." Also, while I like the people on the forum in general and some are my real-life friends and some are people I would seek to be real-life friends with if the opportunity arose, I do not see the forum in its totality or even in general as an extended family. That is just kinda fanboy/girl -ish and a little creepy (particularly since many of us have never met and the medium of the form, by its very nature, often distorts our personalities). It is sort of like saying that all the people that happen to "friend" someone on facebook are all like family - just a little strange.
Second, Luke, you are being a tad reductionist and inaccurate. My comments to Rym were directed at his statement to Timo, "You're in our camp. The old men all have these old man problems that none of us seem to be on track to experience ourselves. ^_~ " I, like Rym, completely question the generalization that The Tick made. My problem was with Rym placing a value judgment on Timo v. The Tick and attempting to stroke his own ego in the process. I look at specifics and relate them to larger, systemic or related problems and point out how each little grain of sand can build a desert. I really do not think that is the same as constantly"generalizing."
Third, I am awesome. I dance, sing, act, write, love fiercely, speak passionately, and care deeply for the well being of others (just to name a few of my many qualities and talents ^_~). This isn't the only way to be awesome, but it is mine and I love it.
Fourth, to get back to the point, Babies: Who wants them? Who doesn't want them? Who has them? How did you come by them or plan to come by them? And such in this fashion...
I do not see the forum in its totality or even in general as an extended family.
I'm right with you on this one. This forum is, for me, about entertainment. I have my family, and I keep in touch via skype/facebook/blogs. I have a group of good friends from ten years ago and chat to them daily online and meet up with them a few times a year. I have a group of good friends here in Berlin that I meet up with a few times a week. And I have a wider network of people I meet during travels, or have made contact with online over the years, who I stay in touch with online too. If I need help with anything, or need support, or need all the other kind of friends and family kind of stuff, this forum is waaaaaay down on my list.
... that is there call.
I see what you did their!
My problem was with Rym placing a value judgment on Timo v. The Tick and attempting to stroke his own ego in the process.
Fuck! Fuck! Shitting-fuck-snot-bag! (Not you, Luke, just a reaction to such an obvious mistake.)
My problem was with Rym placing a value judgment on Timo v. The Tick and attempting to stroke his own ego in the process.
I think the value judgment is fine. And you are free to think that and I am free to disagree. Everyone makes value judgments. My issue is with the the fact that this one seems to be based on relative ignorance (which I find abhorrent - see there is a value judgement right there) and is one example of many such statements and attitudes displayed in the forum that I find equally abhorrent/annoying (another value judgement right there). I also find it hypocritical in the light that is very similar to the "old man" way of thinking that was being bemoaned. EDIT: I can't unblock that one comment - fucktard-fucking-nipple-pinch-farting-lick-spew-anus!
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...shit, I'm gonna go get some clementines.
Jason is saved by the buoyancy of citrus. Mitch Hedberg FTW
Congo rats!
I won't lie, I have filled womb envy.
/rimshot
"You are this community. If you want this community to change. Then you have to change you. It's not my job to change you."
He couldn't be more to the point and I feel this is exactly what should happen. To date, I have not seen a single concerted effort to change this and it saddens me as I thought all you awesome people were capable of stuff like this. What I find to be worse than no change whatsoever,is that higher ups are encouraging such behavior such as Rym's high and mighty, egotistical, attitude. I'm not saying I'm exempt from this accusation (such an idea is ludicrous), but I have been trying and have been making a concerted effort to stop being like this after I was told I was being such.
Even though I totally agree with the general idea that we should keep out people who are either spammers, terrible debaters/conversationalists to the point where all they spout is gibberish, I feel we should have a more welcoming and accommodating attitude towards new forumites who may not have as strong debating or conversational skills. I feel that a vast majority of you forumites are extremely awesome in many ways, you guys are almost like a family to me and I mean that in the purest way possible. However, by that token, a non-dysfunctional family should be willing to address and work out problems that other members exhibit and are negative in some form or fashion. I feel that there never was, is, and never will be a good reason to be elitist ever as it's an unfair and unbalanced perspective and way of life. Not to mention the fact that it's also alienating to other people including new forumites. As a result of this, a lot of people who probably would have become awesome and enjoyable forumites just disappear and don't come back. After all, growth is always good (unless it's cancer or an infestation, but that's beside the point).
I cannot change you and the way you act around other people, but for the sake of the forum.......it has to stop. If you agree with what I had to say, then let's work on it together because it is possible and we can do it if we make a concerted effort. If you don't agree with me...well...I'm sorry you feel that way.
So, who is with me on this?
LOL
That righteous indignation and preaching is Kate's awesome quality, and it makes the forum a more interesting and moderated place. She can take it a bit far, as in this thread, but it's not a bad thing in itself. For example, Rym replied directly to the statement that "Your wife will ignore you for 95% of the time once the baby is born" saying that is merely a projection. I saw he was being quite specific in addressing this over-generalization, but Kate's specialty is to take specifics and turn them into generalities, and then attack the generalities. As another example, a sexist joke, to Kate, becomes representative of general sexism, when it might have been a single, knowing satirical comment on sexism itself. Sexism is bad, yes, but any mention of sexism, even in a light hearted way, is fine. And in this case, Rym's comment on old-man-projection was fine, even though a general attitude of constant "I'm awesome and life will always be better for me than other people" might not be the most helpful.
But then there's a reason I didn't post pregnancy advice in this thread, because I KNOW I don't know a thing about it.
EDIT:
Oh, and Scott, it's they're, not their.
Also, while I like the people on the forum in general and some are my real-life friends and some are people I would seek to be real-life friends with if the opportunity arose, I do not see the forum in its totality or even in general as an extended family. That is just kinda fanboy/girl -ish and a little creepy (particularly since many of us have never met and the medium of the form, by its very nature, often distorts our personalities). It is sort of like saying that all the people that happen to "friend" someone on facebook are all like family - just a little strange.
Second, Luke, you are being a tad reductionist and inaccurate. My comments to Rym were directed at his statement to Timo, "You're in our camp. The old men all have these old man problems that none of us seem to be on track to experience ourselves. ^_~ " I, like Rym, completely question the generalization that The Tick made. My problem was with Rym placing a value judgment on Timo v. The Tick and attempting to stroke his own ego in the process. I look at specifics and relate them to larger, systemic or related problems and point out how each little grain of sand can build a desert. I really do not think that is the same as constantly"generalizing."
Third, I am awesome. I dance, sing, act, write, love fiercely, speak passionately, and care deeply for the well being of others (just to name a few of my many qualities and talents ^_~). This isn't the only way to be awesome, but it is mine and I love it.
Fourth, to get back to the point, Babies: Who wants them? Who doesn't want them? Who has them? How did you come by them or plan to come by them? And such in this fashion...
EDIT: I can't unblock that one comment - fucktard-fucking-nipple-pinch-farting-lick-spew-anus!