But why would males and females interact if not to court?
As friends? I guess it's can be awkward when you're single. However, now that I'm not single I don't see guys the same way as I once did when I was single so I don't think going out on some sort of social thing is considered a date, but just hanging out.
Yeah, it...Was...Things just kinda naturally got up to that today...We moved...Fast-ish.
Well, just take it easy, don't overstress or let your insecurities get the best of you, communicate, and be yourself!
Also, seriously nerd boys, girls are not going to assume that everything involving social outings involving a male and a female is a "date."
If only that were the case where I live. I asked an old friend out to lunch, specifically saying that it was entirely friendly, and about a day later I was getting ominous Facebook messages from a stranger saying to "Stay away from her" and "if you have any feelings for her, lose them now". Fuckin' Bible Belt.
If only that were the case where I live. I asked an old friend out to lunch,specificallysaying that it was entirely friendly, and about a day later I was getting ominous Facebook messages from a stranger saying to "Stay away from her" and "if you have any feelings for her, lose them now". Fuckin' Bible Belt.
I... I kissed Resident Evil girl a few times now! Axel, what magic are you using that I'm not? :P
Umm, the relationship has been being developed for about...10 weeks. She rejected me back in week 3, and it's this really long, really complicated story of how we wound up here. We're both glad we didn't start dating until we had a really good friendship and stuff, but a lot of what we've been doing has been extremely pent up for a while, so it's all moving rather quickly.
So the girl is being very indecisive as to her feelings. I'm just going to play it cool and aloof for a while and see what happens.
Don't mean to be the one to criticize, but being cool and aloof didn't finally get me some damn happiness. Being supportive, helpful, and kind REGARDLESS of whether the girl was willing to go out with me or not actually helped in this situation. Basically, if the girl is being indecisive, you need to show yourself as the stronger choice. Indecisive means she's WILLING to consider you, so being aloof isn't going to pull her in, it might just make her stick with the easier choice instead of trying something.
Don't mean to be the one to criticize, but being cool and aloof didn't finally get me some damn happiness. Being supportive, helpful, and kind REGARDLESS of whether the girl was willing to go out with me or not actually helped in this situation. Basically, if the girl is being indecisive, you need to show yourself as the stronger choice. Indecisive means she's WILLING to consider you, so being aloof isn't going to pull her in, it might just make her stick with the easier choice instead of trying something.
I'm not going to be an ass, I'm just not going to let the initial denial affect me that much. I'm going to back off for a little bit, but keep an eye out for an opening.
I myself am meeting someone in person on Saturday for the first time. It's an online relationship, but I've known him for quite a long time and he is quite upfront and honest about things so I don't have a bad feeling about this.
A cautionary word, however: don't marry her just because she's the first one who'll touch your ding-dong. I promise there are other ones out there who will and there's a pretty fair chance that just by sheer statistical luck the first one you hook up with will be nuts.
Note: this advice applies equally well to all genders and orientations. Do not marry the first one who pays you positive attention.
What does this mean? Marry the ones who reject you?
Means that odds are the first one who's nice to you will also be crazy, and you should hold out for one who's nice to you and not crazy.
I mean, don't get me wrong, you might beat the odds and end up with a good one first time out. Don't count on it, though. My point is that you should not settle for someone you're not actually compatible with just because you finally got laid (or went out, or whatever it is you were trying for) and you think it's magical and you never want to let it go.
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A cautionary word, however: don't marry her just because she's the first one who'll touch your ding-dong. I promise there are other ones out there who will and there's a pretty fair chance that just by sheer statistical luck the first one you hook up with will be nuts.
Note: this advice applies equally well to all genders and orientations. Do not marry the first one who pays you positive attention.
I mean, don't get me wrong, you might beat the odds and end up with a good one first time out. Don't count on it, though. My point is that you should not settle for someone you're not actually compatible with just because you finally got laid (or went out, or whatever it is you were trying for) and you think it's magical and you never want to let it go.
How do participants in the abstinance movement hug each other? The answer may surprise you.. These damn kids today with their abstinance movements!
@ProgSHELL:
In response to this, I'm stating my own anti-abstention movement. Here is our spokes model:
edit: aw, snap, templar, I shoulda refreshed.