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Dating
Dating. What do you think about it? Doing it now? Any horror stories or sugary stories of cutesy lovey bits? Any tactics?
My only horror story is going on a date and the guy smelled. It was a mixture of fanboy funk and hot dogs. His car smelled like it and he smelled like his car which was also ew on the inside. Being that I'm straightforward I told him I can't date a guy who smelled. We continued for a little bit after he started taking showers but he was too....scary fanboy for even me! Dude, I'm a super fangirl and he really creeped ME out! Damn!
On the non horror side most dates go okay. Just today I went to a Japanese restaurant with my boyfriend. Awesome food and an really awesome guy!
My only horror story is going on a date and the guy smelled. It was a mixture of fanboy funk and hot dogs. His car smelled like it and he smelled like his car which was also ew on the inside. Being that I'm straightforward I told him I can't date a guy who smelled. We continued for a little bit after he started taking showers but he was too....scary fanboy for even me! Dude, I'm a super fangirl and he really creeped ME out! Damn!
On the non horror side most dates go okay. Just today I went to a Japanese restaurant with my boyfriend. Awesome food and an really awesome guy!
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She took me for a drive out of the city, said it was a surprise. Turns out the surprise was I was about to meet her entire family after only 3 weeks of dating. Now this would have been fine had I not lied about being able to play piano during the early courtship period. Her mother very quickly pointed to a grand piano and said "I hear you play piano too, would you like to show us some". After my excuses were rebuffed, I sat at the piano with everyone watching me. I hit a few keys as my mind was racing to think of a way to get out of this ridiculous situation without looking like a dirty liar. It then occurred to me that I could play the high and mighty card, I hit the 8 keys of a tune I remembered from music class as a boy, and then looked at the piano disgusted. I asked the mum "Is this in tune?". She went bright red and confessed that it might be a little out of tune. I promptly got up, apologized and said I couldn't play on such a piano as it would kill the music. The rest of the evening went well but I did the safe thing and broke up with the girl the next week.
1) You cannot play the piano and were using it as a way to impress her.
2) You broke up with her simply because of this.
3) Your relationship meant that little to you.
And get the whole thing on video.
It makes me think she was clingy. It was a bad thing to lie to impress her but it was only the first 3 weeks. I guess it all depends on how much he stressed that he played the piano.
Though I did ask someone the day after we went on a long 1 and a 1/2 hour walk, but she said no. *sigh*
Anyway, I've never been good at dating. I got into my first relationship when I was 18 (ish) and that was with some chick online, where I now come to realize she was obviously cheating on me, but I don't blame her... I was just a guy on the net who she happened to like, but I was in London whilst she was in California. My next relationship was a year later with a chick called Hayley, I met her on a role playing forum and we met up in real life, I remember not being attracted to her at all but we got along alright but nothing great, I'm pretty sure I only stayed with her because I figured she was one of the only girls who ever showed affection towards me in that way.
3rd and not least, at all, is my current girlfriend of *calculates* 17 months. I live in London, she in Miami and we're as close as two people could be. I've been to see her 3 times and she has been here once (and is demanding that she will come again, during summer this time) and her family loves me and my family love her. It's one of those weird relationships where everything just seems to go right. We have the same personality and sense of humor, but with a little variation from both of us.
So there you go, I'm 22 and have dated 3 girls =P technically 2 since I never met the first one! And technically 1 since I only went on one date with the second one... to McDonalds. I'm such a catch.
After a bad break-up and before I met my husband, I dated a young man.... let's call him Darryl. He was nice, cute-ish, and geeky. Not the sharpest knife in the drawer, but pleasant. I dated him knowing that I wouldn't fall for him. I told him that I was only interested in dating casually (not dating multiple people, just not getting serious), so I was upfront about my intentions and he was fine with it. He was addicted to some online game (it was a space game, I forget the name) and he would ignore me (even when I was clearly offering physical intimacy) to play it. Eventually the weak attraction that was there died away and I went over to his place to let him know that I wanted to be just friends. He started to cry... a lot. I felt horrible, and I hugged him and told him that I would always be his friend, that I never expected him to fall for me, etc. I started to tear up, I never intended to hurt such a nice guy! Then, as he sobbed on my shoulder he looked up at me with big, earnest eyes and asked "Can we still fool around?"
I couldn't believe it! I laughed in his face, threw him off me, and left the apartment.
The first and second were simply mutual infatuation, and ended fairly quickly. Those women are now two of my best friends. The third lasted longer, but we seemed to think on different levels, so I ended it. The fourth was quite lighthearted and fun, but she had to go back to Singapore. The fifth was strange, in that it was going great until she sent me an email out of the blue. Saying "we're done," of course. Maybe she met someone else? My sixth (and current) is pretty cool. She has similar enough interests that she isn't turned off by geekery, and is somewhat of a fledgling geek herself (she's been using ubuntu for a few months now).
I've found it's important to be lighthearted about most things in a relationship, and not worry about things. It's also incredibly important to be able to talk with them on the same level. If she can only talk about her day, and you're exploring the meaning of life, you might have a problem.
As you said Dave, people lie in relationships, and those relationships don't instantly break apart because of it. Not without the relationship already heading for disaster for some time. He could've just admitted he couldn't play the piano as well as they might've expected, merely a song or two, nothing wrong with that.
EDIT:True, but she might've fallen head over heels for him as I said earlier, and told her parents a ton about him and wanted him to meet them as soon as possible. Of course, we do not know everything about the mentioned situations, but we can tell that she might've been genuinely wanting to surprise him with the honor of meeting her parents, as if to say "I really like you, please meet my parents." Of course I agree that she might've been a jinx and did that just to make him look bad and toy with him, but we've also been told that she burst out in tears both times he told her it was over. I personally find the head over heels love theory most probable.
I'll say this: dating a coworker for a year and a half is way harder than you think.
Once again, from the information we have I can only conclude that at least Sime was a liar and a bastard for breaking up with the reason supplied.