90% of flirting is just being friends and acting the way friends act with each other.
This doesn't fit with my model or definition of flirting at all.
What you don't understand is that Rym flirts with pretty much every single one of his friends. Tru-fac
I also flirt with many of my friends, but that doesn't help when giving advice about flirting. 90% of flirting ISN'T being friends and acting like normal friends act. It's maybe 10% about being friends and acting like friends act, and 90% about having confidence in your own human desirability.
90% of flirting is just being friends and acting the way friends act with each other.
This doesn't fit with my model or definition of flirting at all.
What you don't understand is that Rym flirts with pretty much every single one of his friends. Tru-fac
Yes. Including the man-friends.
Gay chicken is a constant in our universe. You gotta be willing to go the distance.
I was once thrown out of McGreggors near RIT along with another student for a game of gay chicken. We were also told to please put our clothes back on.
So I was on two different dates in a row where the feedback received was "There's no chemistry". Rethinking my dates over the years this could apply to every date I've ever had.
I installed Tinder but I was lazy and didn't want to make much of a bio until later. You'd be surprised how many matches you get when all you have written is "Don't message me if you don't like Bruce Springsteen".
It's hard to get chemistry with people. When people realize that, then it's not such a barrier. And sometimes reactions take longer to kick off where others are immediate.
It stands to reason tho that some thought about what type of personality you think would be attractive and that you want to be a good fit for is one potential path forward if you feel self improvement is the way to go.
I tend to think I'm kinda shitty to be around for many people, a lot of the time at least, and sometimes I want to work on that. Or sometimes I don't have the fucks to give... but I try to think of what my personality is and if I need to adjust it to fit with the type of person I might want to be with, romantically or otherwise.
So when you all say chemistry you all are referring to what exactly? Being charming? dressing well? Being a good listener, not be boring or acting bored? Break it down if you will. Nerds need more data than most. The dating concept of having 'chemistry' is a bit nebulous.
When two people have chemistry, they feel a natural pull towards each other where they want to progress to further intimacy. Simple as that. You can have a great time hanging out with someone, but not feel any kind of romantic or sexual pull towards them. You just don't feel like you naturally want to progress to that level. That's what not having chemistry is.
No. Chemistry refers to the sparks that fly due to the interaction between two people.
One person doesn't have chemistry and the other person is attracted to that chemistry. Two people must each have something the other finds intriguing, and chemistry happens when they mix.
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Gay chicken is a constant in our universe. You gotta be willing to go the distance.
Especially then.
I. Don't, Lose.
Anyone have any suggestions?
On a note relevant to this thread, I reactivated my OKCupid profile and reinstalled Tinder. My OKCupid profile needs some updating.
It stands to reason tho that some thought about what type of personality you think would be attractive and that you want to be a good fit for is one potential path forward if you feel self improvement is the way to go.
I tend to think I'm kinda shitty to be around for many people, a lot of the time at least, and sometimes I want to work on that. Or sometimes I don't have the fucks to give... but I try to think of what my personality is and if I need to adjust it to fit with the type of person I might want to be with, romantically or otherwise.
But yes sample size might have to grow as well.
I don't suggest it in you personal life. Well unless it's for family events.
One person doesn't have chemistry and the other person is attracted to that chemistry. Two people must each have something the other finds intriguing, and chemistry happens when they mix.