Don't get bummed dude. She didn't say no or fuck off. She said not right now, a far different thing. Your still friends which is always a plus. The lady is showing some sense in getting her stuff in order before going into a relationship.
So I hung out with Allison for the first time since I told her I liked her last Friday. We went to Animal Kingdom and it was... weird (at first). There was this tension between us that you could pretty much cut with a knife, the friendship was just off. Luckily we started laughing our asses off while riding a ride and everything sort of clicked into place, until we went to meet Mickey and Minnie. She asked who should go first and I replied with something along the lines of "we can get a picture with them together, it's not that big of a deal."
We did get the picture, and everything continued to be okay.
I mean, I guess it depends on how much you both earn. Maybe she feels like she doesn't earn much and wanted someone who would help her be financially well off. I don't really know. It's still pretty rude, but people are people.
I mean, I guess it depends on how much you both earn. Maybe she feels like she doesn't earn much and wanted someone who would help her be financially well off. I don't really know. It's still pretty rude, but people are people.
Veterinarians get schooled harder in Australia but earn very little contrary to popular belief (the average income is around 72k) I earn 75 - 80k depending on after hours. She's an engineer and earns 120k.
Yea what's crazy is that's a crazy amount of money to be caring. I could see if you were making 20k and she was making 120k. but really you are both doing well...
If she's making 120k, it's kind of weird for her to expect many people she encounters to actually be making more than her.
While she's certainly at the upper end of the overall pay scale, still no shortage of people who make that or more. Don't forget, there was a point where I was making more than Rym, when I was a flight attendant and he worked on Wall Street.
If she's making 120k, it's kind of weird for her to expect many people she encounters to actually be making more than her.
While she's certainly at the upper end of the overall pay scale, still no shortage of people who make that or more. Don't forget, there was a point where I was making more than Rym, when I was a flight attendant and he worked on Wall Street.
So guys, would it be weird to ask Allison what she thinks of me? I'm exceptionally curious as to what she thinks of me as a person (and maybe find out if there is anything I could improve on for trying to date people in the future).
So guys, would it be weird to ask Allison what she thinks of me? I'm exceptionally curious as to what she thinks of me as a person (and maybe find out if there is anything I could improve on for trying to date people in the future).
I think it might be uncomfortable for her to answer, she may feel pressured.
I don't think you need someone else to tell you who you are as a person, the best person to do that is yourself.
I think people's opinions are inherently useless ways to tell what other people will think, because everyone thinks differently.
It will come off as a bit creepy and like you're pushing her to tell you what to fix to make yourself more attractive to her personally. That's not your intention, but it is how it will be received, almost guaranteed.
Again, as stated before, the information is not as valuable as you'd like to think, so don't sweat it.
It will come off as a bit creepy and like you're pushing her to tell you what to fix to make yourself more attractive to her personally. That's not your intention, but it is how it will be received, almost guaranteed.
Yeah, this. I disagree that the information isn't useful, but you should definitely give it some time before you ask. Let the relationship settle.
In the mean time realize that, despite the cliche, it probably has more to do with her than you. Her whole opinion of you, actually, has everything to do with her. So don't worry about it.
I would advise against asking her entirely. I've been down that road before and, in addition to being awkward, the information I've gotten from asking has been pretty much useless. Few people can articulate why they don't feel something and they are even worse at giving suggestions for improvement. Recognizing patterns and self-reflection plus doing research is the best way to move forward.
Yeah. I just think that her opinion of you matters very little in terms of other people and potentially finding and meeting someone else. She may have generalized tips of what you did wrong, but they may or may not be true for other people. So I dunno.
It's bullshit to think there was something you did "wrong." There's not always chemistry between two people. So, if you're planning to ask what you did wrong, forget about it.
If you genuinely want to know her opinion of you, ask in the future. But not with an ulterior motive... purely for the sake of learning how people perceive you and perhaps bettering the impression that you give.
Yeah. My wording there was poor, I apologize. I suppose I meant "what you did wrong" in their perspective of what a potential partner should and shouldn't do, but you didn't do anything wrong.
According to a report on NPR today the current economic problems are based on you millennials not following the program of getting married and having kids in your early twenties.
Because of this I suggest Li_Akahi should just get out his cave man club and take that woman home. The economic future of the country depends on it!!!!
According to a report on NPR today the current economic problems are based on you millennials not following the program of getting married and having kids in your early twenties.
I recall a similar article from NPR about the same thing but the the car industry. Most people don't even care about getting a driver's license because they don't plan on owning a car. They use public transportation, get rides from friends, and even use Twitter to search for car rides.
Part of the hypothesis is that prior to the current generation marriage was seen as the foundation of your adult life while now it is seen as the capstone. I imagine part of that change can be attributed to shows like Married With Children that show kids in a negative light.
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We did get the picture, and everything continued to be okay.
I don't understand it was all fine before this, regular communication Skype chats, enjoyment on both sides. Like the same music and movies.
Weird, anyway going on to the next one.
I always listen to Jay-Z's "On to the Next One" on these occasions use it literally lol.
I would think shed be stoked, but then I guess it all really depends.
I don't really know. It's still pretty rude, but people are people.
I didn't thin it was an issue.
I don't think you need someone else to tell you who you are as a person, the best person to do that is yourself.
It will come off as a bit creepy and like you're pushing her to tell you what to fix to make yourself more attractive to her personally. That's not your intention, but it is how it will be received, almost guaranteed.
Again, as stated before, the information is not as valuable as you'd like to think, so don't sweat it.
If you genuinely want to know her opinion of you, ask in the future. But not with an ulterior motive... purely for the sake of learning how people perceive you and perhaps bettering the impression that you give.
Because of this I suggest Li_Akahi should just get out his cave man club and take that woman home. The economic future of the country depends on it!!!!
Tons of people I graduated highschool with had kids within 1-2 years. The rest just kinda didn't... yet... and we are approaching 30.
Part of the hypothesis is that prior to the current generation marriage was seen as the foundation of your adult life while now it is seen as the capstone. I imagine part of that change can be attributed to shows like Married With Children that show kids in a negative light.