Hello, dating thread! I wanted to post about this somewhere but I don't want to put it on a blog or on FaceBook or anything like that so I thought I'd just drop it here since there's a dating thread. My girlfriend of 3 years and I just split up. It wasn't a rough split, and we're both okay. It's tough because this is the first long relationship the both of us had ever been in, and we had a few life firsts if you know what I'm saying WINK WINK.
So, that kind of sucks. But, like I said, we're both okay.
Meeting ones parents is always a sign things are getting serious right? Kinda like, they want to share more of their life with you sorta thing. I may be wrong, but I always thought that when meeting a lovers folks for the first time.
all I know it, it's nerve wracking every time. O_O
I was threatened with a rifle meeting a girl's parent's when I was 15 or so. Suffice to say, I did my best to stay out of their sight for the duration of that relationship.
I was threatened with a rifle meeting a girl's parent's when I was 15 or so. Suffice to say, I did my best to stay out of their sight for the duration of that relationship.
Never have much understood what the big deal is of meeting the parents.
Because it is. A parent's approval or disapproval can vastly affect your interactions with your SO's network of people. It can be the difference between awesomeness and OMG kill me.
Never have much understood what the big deal is of meeting the parents.
Because it is. A parent's approval or disapproval can vastly affect your interactions with your SO's network of people. It can be the difference between awesomeness and OMG kill me.
Especially if your partner has a good relationship with his/her parents.
I've never dreaded meeting the parents because I knew I was awesome and I had a surefire way make a good impression. However I can EASILY see where people could fear meeting parents.
Scott's way of making parents (and pretty much everyone) like you
1. Be polite and nice and ask them lots of questions and show interest 2. Pay attention to how the family interacts with each other and you. Pick up what is appropriate behavior. 3. Don't be defensive and be helpful and be accepting to opinions that might seem strange (until you know what is appropriate to discuss)
I actually tricked my wife's parents into thinking I was quiet when I first met them. They quickly learned. But I used that time to learn how each family member interacted with each other. (Her family is very Catholic and Military so I didn't know what I was getting into, until I realized they were chill for the most part)
Scott's way is best way. I did the same. And like Scott it helped going in knowing that my SO's parents were cool. But it's the only time I've met the parents so I was still nervous.
Never have much understood what the big deal is of meeting the parents.
Because it is. A parent's approval or disapproval can vastly affect your interactions with your SO's network of people. It can be the difference between awesomeness and OMG kill me.
Especially if your partner has a good relationship with his/her parents.
I've never dreaded meeting the parents because I knew I was awesome and I had a surefire way make a good impression.
This.
It sounds like a Scott Rubin argument when I write it out, but maybe it's only a big deal because people make it one by putting it off for so long. The earlier it happens the earlier everyone involved knows what they're in for. If it's truly going to "make or break" your relationship, all the more reason to do it sooner rather than later.
I always worry because I don't know if I'm awesome. Plus, some people (like my second ex) have crazy parents who will be judgmental and who will make your life (and your SO's life) difficult over anything about you they perceive as a negative of any kind.
I was threatened with a rifle meeting a girl's parent's when I was 15 or so. Suffice to say, I did my best to stay out of their sight for the duration of that relationship.
Do IIRC that this would've been in Florida?
Good memory. Her family was a couple of steps away from your average Floridaman, but they were liberal enough when it came to their daughter not to helicopter her.
What do you do when the parents (plus 2 brothers) are not fond of their daughter being in an interracial relationship?
Get non responsive discussion for about an hour and then unceremoniously hurried out of the house.
I have to say that was one of the most uncomfortable situations I've been in. It was too bad the girlfriend crumbled to her parents but it's a fun life experience to look back on.
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My girlfriend of 3 years and I just split up. It wasn't a rough split, and we're both okay. It's tough because this is the first long relationship the both of us had ever been in, and we had a few life firsts if you know what I'm saying WINK WINK.
So, that kind of sucks. But, like I said, we're both okay.
Well shit is about to get interesting because of federal laws and such...
all I know it, it's nerve wracking every time. O_O
Scott's way of making parents (and pretty much everyone) like you
1. Be polite and nice and ask them lots of questions and show interest
2. Pay attention to how the family interacts with each other and you. Pick up what is appropriate behavior.
3. Don't be defensive and be helpful and be accepting to opinions that might seem strange (until you know what is appropriate to discuss)
I actually tricked my wife's parents into thinking I was quiet when I first met them. They quickly learned. But I used that time to learn how each family member interacted with each other. (Her family is very Catholic and Military so I didn't know what I was getting into, until I realized they were chill for the most part)
Scott's approach seems like a great one. ^^
It sounds like a Scott Rubin argument when I write it out, but maybe it's only a big deal because people make it one by putting it off for so long. The earlier it happens the earlier everyone involved knows what they're in for. If it's truly going to "make or break" your relationship, all the more reason to do it sooner rather than later.
Get non responsive discussion for about an hour and then unceremoniously hurried out of the house.
I have to say that was one of the most uncomfortable situations I've been in. It was too bad the girlfriend crumbled to her parents but it's a fun life experience to look back on.