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  • Looks like I might have to change some phone numbers. Evil is being evil and causing trouble :(
  • So many things I totally can't say right now.
  • Hello, dating thread! I wanted to post about this somewhere but I don't want to put it on a blog or on FaceBook or anything like that so I thought I'd just drop it here since there's a dating thread.
    My girlfriend of 3 years and I just split up. It wasn't a rough split, and we're both okay. It's tough because this is the first long relationship the both of us had ever been in, and we had a few life firsts if you know what I'm saying WINK WINK.

    So, that kind of sucks. But, like I said, we're both okay.
  • Awww! I'm really sorry to hear that but I'm really glad you guys are still okay! I love you both.
  • Ah, that sucks man. I can't say that "I've been there" because I've not been in that serious of a relationship, but I sympathize.
  • Ah, that sucks man. I can't say that "I've been there" because I've not been in that serious of a relationship, but I sympathize.
    I've been there. Ah, that sucks man.

  • edited October 2013
    Crazy has been harrasing my ex wife and calling my cell (work and home, it is how I know it is her). Text no voice calls to ex wife.

    Well shit is about to get interesting because of federal laws and such...
    Post edited by HMTKSteve on
  • Slam down the law!
  • edited October 2013
    Hrm... nevermind... for now...
    Post edited by Anthony Heman on
  • Well, sorry about your... something... not somethinging.
  • You didn't do the thing with the thing?
  • Meeting ones parents is always a sign things are getting serious right? Kinda like, they want to share more of their life with you sorta thing. I may be wrong, but I always thought that when meeting a lovers folks for the first time.

    all I know it, it's nerve wracking every time. O_O
  • I was threatened with a rifle meeting a girl's parent's when I was 15 or so. Suffice to say, I did my best to stay out of their sight for the duration of that relationship.
  • I was threatened with a rifle meeting a girl's parent's when I was 15 or so. Suffice to say, I did my best to stay out of their sight for the duration of that relationship.

    Do IIRC that this would've been in Florida?
  • edited October 2013
    Never have much understood what the big deal is of meeting the parents.
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  • edited October 2013
    Meet the Fockers is a good example of why.
    Post edited by Josh Bytes on
  • Sail said:

    Never have much understood what the big deal is of meeting the parents.

    Because it is. A parent's approval or disapproval can vastly affect your interactions with your SO's network of people. It can be the difference between awesomeness and OMG kill me.
  • Sail said:

    Never have much understood what the big deal is of meeting the parents.

    Because it is. A parent's approval or disapproval can vastly affect your interactions with your SO's network of people. It can be the difference between awesomeness and OMG kill me.
    Especially if your partner has a good relationship with his/her parents.
  • I've never dreaded meeting the parents because I knew I was awesome and I had a surefire way make a good impression. However I can EASILY see where people could fear meeting parents.

    Scott's way of making parents (and pretty much everyone) like you

    1. Be polite and nice and ask them lots of questions and show interest
    2. Pay attention to how the family interacts with each other and you. Pick up what is appropriate behavior.
    3. Don't be defensive and be helpful and be accepting to opinions that might seem strange (until you know what is appropriate to discuss)

    I actually tricked my wife's parents into thinking I was quiet when I first met them. They quickly learned. But I used that time to learn how each family member interacted with each other. (Her family is very Catholic and Military so I didn't know what I was getting into, until I realized they were chill for the most part)
  • edited October 2013
    Scott's way is best way. I did the same. And like Scott it helped going in knowing that my SO's parents were cool. But it's the only time I've met the parents so I was still nervous.
    Post edited by George Patches on
  • Thanks for the advice. I'll try my best but,
    Rochelle said:

    Sail said:

    Never have much understood what the big deal is of meeting the parents.

    Because it is. A parent's approval or disapproval can vastly affect your interactions with your SO's network of people. It can be the difference between awesomeness and OMG kill me.
    Especially if your partner has a good relationship with his/her parents.
    <-That exactly.

    Scott's approach seems like a great one. ^^
  • edited October 2013
    Cremlian said:

    I've never dreaded meeting the parents because I knew I was awesome and I had a surefire way make a good impression.

    This.

    It sounds like a Scott Rubin argument when I write it out, but maybe it's only a big deal because people make it one by putting it off for so long. The earlier it happens the earlier everyone involved knows what they're in for. If it's truly going to "make or break" your relationship, all the more reason to do it sooner rather than later.
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  • I always worry because I don't know if I'm awesome. Plus, some people (like my second ex) have crazy parents who will be judgmental and who will make your life (and your SO's life) difficult over anything about you they perceive as a negative of any kind.
  • Greg said:

    I was threatened with a rifle meeting a girl's parent's when I was 15 or so. Suffice to say, I did my best to stay out of their sight for the duration of that relationship.

    Do IIRC that this would've been in Florida?
    Good memory. Her family was a couple of steps away from your average Floridaman, but they were liberal enough when it came to their daughter not to helicopter her.
  • What do you do when the parents (plus 2 brothers) are not fond of their daughter being in an interracial relationship?

    Get non responsive discussion for about an hour and then unceremoniously hurried out of the house.

    I have to say that was one of the most uncomfortable situations I've been in. It was too bad the girlfriend crumbled to her parents but it's a fun life experience to look back on.
  • You say loudly "So, it must be tough growing up in a racist family..."
  • Meeting each other's parents is an easy step. The REAL test of your relationship is when the two sets of parents meet each other.
  • Meeting each other's parents is an easy step. The REAL test of your relationship is when the two sets of parents meet each other.

    Yeah I'm more curious to see how that pans out for myself...
  • Meeting each other's parents is an easy step. The REAL test of your relationship is when the two sets of parents meet each other.

    My brother could probably relate to this sentiment, his engagement got cancelled after the parents met from both families.
  • sK0pe said:

    Meeting each other's parents is an easy step. The REAL test of your relationship is when the two sets of parents meet each other.

    My brother could probably relate to this sentiment, his engagement got cancelled after the parents met from both families.
    Sometimes, I'm really glad I disowned basically my entire family.
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