I'm just lonely...I know it's lame, and directly going out and trying to meet people with that intent is bad, but I can't help it. And even just thinking a girl was interested in me has just sort of made the whole thing worse...This is the part of college I was worried about.
I found out a long time ago that if you just don't look for someone, they will come along eventually, and it will be awesome. If you look too hard, you might convince yourself you like someone that you really don't deep down inside, just because you want to be in a relationship right away.
Gushy flashback moment: I marched next to Andrew for a semester and just thought he was a cool guy. Then we started talking online (for some reason I can't remember), and I realized how much of an awesome geeky nerd he was. Thats where it all began... *sappy romeo and juliet music*
Gushy flashback moment: I marched next to Andrew for a semester and just thought he was a cool guy. Then we started talking online (for some reason I can't remember), and I realized how much of an awesome geeky nerd he was. Thats where it all began... *sappy romeo and juliet music*
You two are way too cute for your own good. Seriously.
Gushy flashback moment: I marched next to Andrew for a semester and just thought he was a cool guy. Then we started talking online (for some reason I can't remember), and I realized how much of an awesome geeky nerd he was. Thats where it all began... *sappy romeo and juliet music*
You two are way too cute for your own good. Seriously.
Hehe.
Seriously though. I used to be the quiet nerdy girl who watched all of her friends happy with their boyfriends, but never could find someone herself. Boys just didn't like me for a long time. Or if any did, they never told me. (Let that be a lesson to you guys who never confess your feelings because you are too scared!)
Ironically, I remember telling myself I would find a nice smart nerdy guy at college one day anyway, and I actually did. Hah.
Seriously though. I used to be the quiet nerdy girl who watched all of her friends happy with their boyfriends, but never could find someone herself. Boys just didn't like me for a long time. Or if any did, they never told me. (Let that be a lesson to you guys who never confess your feelings because you are too scared!)
I see it as, "I was probably too naive to notice that boys liked me or they were too nervous to ask me out". I used to think the former that no one liked me, but was surprised when I found out a few of my guy friends liked me, but I was with a guy at the time.
Why can't a girl ask a guy out sometimes? I don't understand why it's always the guys job to initiate the dating/hanging out/etc.
I asked Jeremy out, from a Craigslist ad. At first it was a platonic sort of thing, talking on the phone. We then decided to go catch a movie together. Then at the end of the movie we talked in the parking lot, which might or might not have ended with a snog.
(Let that be a lesson to you guys who never confess your feelings because you are too scared!)
Why can't a girl ask a guy out sometimes? I don't understand why it's always the guys job to initiate the dating/hanging out/etc.
I guess thats true. Then again, every guy I ever had a crush on already had a girlfriend... or was an untouchable movie star or imaginary character in a book. >_>
So I guess the question is, if there is initiating to be done, who does it? Both sides don't want rejection. I would say thats what flirting is for, but so many people do it in a non serious fashion that other people get their hopes up. :-/
I guess thats true. Then again, every guy I ever had a crush on already had a girlfriend... or was an untouchable movie star or imaginary character in a book. >_>
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So I guess the question is, if there is initiating to be done, who does it? Both sides don't want rejection. I would say thats what flirting is for, but so many people do it in a non serious fashion that other people get their hopes up. :-/
Rejection sucks, but if you're too afraid to take a risk, no reward. Blah, blah, blah, all that jazz and crap.
Flirting is something of a mystery. I'm never sure if it's ever being done with me or if I'm doing it. I'm just a potty-mouthed girl that speaks her mind.
I think, if you truly have feelings for someone, you owe them the honesty. Better that you tell them and get through it than you always suffer the disconnect of wondering and waiting.
I think you owe people the honesty if you have feelings for them. Better that you tell them and get through it than you always suffer the disconnect of wondering and waiting.
Very true. However, there are times where I wondered if I truly liked a person for themselves, and not just attracted to them because I was lonely and they were single.
I sometimes wonder if it's ok to still be attracted to single guys, but still be with someone. I think it's ok at least. I don't act upon any of it. It's just a lot of my guy friends are awesome and I like them as friends, but can see their attractiveness. Does this many any sense?
And Sail, stop deleting your awesome posts! Seriously. You make good points. :P
I sometimes wonder if it's ok to still be attracted to single guys, but still be with someone. I think it's ok at least. I don't act upon any of it. It's just a lot of my guy friends are awesome and I like them as friends, but can see their attractiveness. Does this many any sense.
Attraction happens, and denying that doesn't do anyone any favors. The main problem occurs when you act on that attraction, and doing so is against the rules of your relationship.
If you're OK with your SO having a similar attraction to their friends, and you communicate to each other that you're both OK with it, then everything is good.
I think you owe people the honesty if you have feelings for them. Better that you tell them and get through it than you always suffer the disconnect of wondering and waiting.
sometimes wonder if it's ok to still be attracted to single guys, but still be with someone. I think it's ok at least. I don't act upon any of it. It's just a lot of my guy friends are awesome and I like them as friends, but can see their attractiveness. Does this many any sense.
If guys can hoot and holler about hot girls walking down the street with their boobs hanging out, why can't we compliment attractive guys' appearances ? ^_^
By the way, I don't care if my man looks at hot girls or porn, or even goes to a strip club, as long as he doesn't cheat on me. (Is this wrong? >___>)
By the way, I don't care if my man looks at hot girls or porn, or even goes to a strip club, as long as he doesn't cheat on me. (Is this wrong? >___>)
No. It's funny when you catch them looking at porn, though. Especially when they get all excited and nervous and close out the screen.
I then go "Why did you do that?! I want to see too!"
As for strip clubs, all I care about is the fact he wasted all that money for cover charge and for drinks. He can get that shit for free if he asked. Just saying.
If you're OK with your SO having a similar attraction to their friends, and you communicate to each other that you're both OK with it, then everything is good.
Exactly. Communication. However, my SO doesn't have girls that are friends, so that hasn't occurred yet. >.>
Hey, he could be attracted to guys. Always good to cover your bases, even if you don't think you'll need to cover them. :P
LOL, I thought about that too. Recently he's been on summer break from school and been hanging out with his friends. I always ask him how his "Bromance" went or his "man dates". He scoffs at me and tells me I'm silly. :P
Hey, he could be attracted to guys. Always good to cover your bases, even if you don't think you'll need to cover them. :P
LOL, I thought about that too. Recently he's been on summer break from school and been hanging out with his friends. I always ask him how his "Bromance" went or his "man dates". He scoffs at me and tells me I'm silly. :P
Hmm... Andrew jokes an awful lot about his "intimate" relationship with one of his past roommates...
I sometimes wonder if it's ok to still be attracted to single guys, but still be with someone. I think it's ok at least. I don't act upon any of it. It's just a lot of my guy friends are awesome and I like them as friends, but can see their attractiveness. Does this many any sense?
On the matter of finding people attractive when you are a relationship, sure! You don't stop noticing other people's hotness just because you have a favorite! I dated Rym through most of college, and there were plenty of guy friends in school who I thought were cute and crushed on a little. It's inevitable. The best thing to do is just to be chill, not pursue them, and eventually you settle into a comfortable area where while they are still hot, you don't really see a need to flirt or make anything of it, because your partner is the best one! Rym is still friends with many of the girls he crushed on (as am I), and I still have guy friends that I talk to every now and again that I was once mooning over. Crushes don't have to get in the way of friendships.
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Gushy flashback moment: I marched next to Andrew for a semester and just thought he was a cool guy. Then we started talking online (for some reason I can't remember), and I realized how much of an awesome geeky nerd he was. Thats where it all began... *sappy romeo and juliet music*
If anything Axel, can't you just join a group or club they have there? Or if you're intimately lonely, then umm, yeah.
As for birth control, shit is free at Planned Parenthood.
Seriously though. I used to be the quiet nerdy girl who watched all of her friends happy with their boyfriends, but never could find someone herself. Boys just didn't like me for a long time. Or if any did, they never told me. (Let that be a lesson to you guys who never confess your feelings because you are too scared!)
Ironically, I remember telling myself I would find a nice smart nerdy guy at college one day anyway, and I actually did. Hah.
So I guess the question is, if there is initiating to be done, who does it? Both sides don't want rejection. I would say thats what flirting is for, but so many people do it in a non serious fashion that other people get their hopes up. :-/
Flirting is something of a mystery. I'm never sure if it's ever being done with me or if I'm doing it. I'm just a potty-mouthed girl that speaks her mind.
I sometimes wonder if it's ok to still be attracted to single guys, but still be with someone. I think it's ok at least. I don't act upon any of it. It's just a lot of my guy friends are awesome and I like them as friends, but can see their attractiveness. Does this many any sense?
And Sail, stop deleting your awesome posts! Seriously. You make good points. :P
If you're OK with your SO having a similar attraction to their friends, and you communicate to each other that you're both OK with it, then everything is good.
Say, lets find the most blue balled member of the forum and have them do that.
By the way, I don't care if my man looks at hot girls or porn, or even goes to a strip club, as long as he doesn't cheat on me. (Is this wrong? >___>)
I then go "Why did you do that?! I want to see too!"
As for strip clubs, all I care about is the fact he wasted all that money for cover charge and for drinks. He can get that shit for free if he asked. Just saying. Exactly. Communication. However, my SO doesn't have girls that are friends, so that hasn't occurred yet. >.>
Guys are so silly.
Sorry for embarrassing you Andy
Then make sure to record it!