I don't have any time as it is. What am I going to not do to make time to go out there? You want me to cut out some Counter-Strike? I don't think so. I also won't want to be there. So I'll not only be wasting my own money and time, but everyone else's as well.
Seriously, asking a man to give up his counter-strike is just unreasonable.
Speaking of changes, I've lost almost all interest in video games lately. Though I think this is temporary as I'm spending all my time reading about finance and accounting.
I'm actually gonna go with Scott on this one. He actively wants to play Counter-Strike. He doesn't actively want a girlfriend. He doesn't complain about not having a girlfriend or feel anything lacking in his life because he doesn't have one. Therefore why would he give up doing the thing he wants to seek a chance to do the thing he doesn't?
He is also correct about wasting the other people's time.
Madoka was pretty sweet, though. Fucking cat. Fuck that guy.
You mean Kyubey? ／人◕ ‿‿ ◕人＼ He's watching you, Pete.
I have short term attention spans with both video games and anime now. I'd rather do a little here and there while I spend more time either crafting, studying Japanese, or reading.
I'm actually gonna go with Scott on this one. He actively wants to play Counter-Strike. He doesn't actively want a girlfriend. He doesn't complain about not having a girlfriend or feel anything lacking in his life because he doesn't have one. Therefore why would he give up doing the thing he wants to seek a chance to do the thing he doesn't?
He is also correct about wasting the other people's time.
It was just a suggestion. Not saying it was a good one. I think it has the possibilities of at least an interesting story or two out of it.
I have so much to say on this topic, but only have the energy to say about 1% of what I am thinking.
A) Divorce is not fun. I get it. But does this mean that nobody should get married? If your marriage gave you 100 points of happiness and 20 points of sadness (from the bad days and the divorce), aren't you still ahead by 80 happy points? And if so, wasn't it a good idea to get married - even if it ended badly? I understand that you can have a relationship without getting married, so the question is really whether marriage itself adds some happy points.
Hungry Joe: Not trying to be a jerk here, but go back and read the description you gave as to why your marriage ended. Notice that each and every reason was entirely your wife's fault. If you guys changed to the point that you were no longer compatible that's a good reason to be divorced. I'm willing to bet, though, that you changed in ways that she did not like. I'd be worried if you hadn't changed since you were married. I have no idea as to who was more at "fault", nor do I care. I do, however, think that any relationship involves compromise to be successful. If you can't recognize your own shortcomings, it makes a future relationship very unlikely to succeed in the long term.
C) Divorce without children seems so darned easy to me. It can be done quickly, and people can move on and be much happier. Divorce with children is usually rough on the children, even if its amicable. That's unfortunate.
D) Listening to the problems of couples without kids makes me laugh. Raising children is HARD. Picture hard and double it. Double that again. We have things rather easy, and it's still hard. Studies show that people under 40 with children are less happy than those who do not have children. However, those who have had children are happier than those who have not after age 40. Having children is hard at the time, but it makes you feel warm, fuzzy and secure later in life. It's a question of when you want your pleasure.
E) The laws concerning divorce are so screwed up. I could write a book on this topic.
Kilarney, if you would just read for content instead of reading to find something to bitch about, you would see that I wrote that she had plenty of complaints against me, and if you take a look at posts I have written in the past, I believe you'll find that I am more than willing to admit to my shortcomings.
Oddly, I've never heard you admit to any shortcomings. Maybe you'e just not mature enough to practice what you preach - or maybe you're just moving the goalposts. All in all, I think I liked you better when you said you'd never speak to me again. Alas for broken promises.
You say you're so smart and wise that you could write a book to instruct all of us who do not have the benefit of being born with your superior faculties just how wrong we've all been about divorce and how to make divorce a more rational, less "screwed up" process. One can only wonder why, if you have the wherewithal to write such a groundbreaking manifesto, why you haven't done so already instead of continuing to toil in obscurity.
Hungry Joe: Not trying to be a jerk here, but go back and read the description you gave as to why your marriage ended. Notice that each and every reason was entirely your wife's fault. If you guys changed to the point that you were no longer compatible that's a good reason to be divorced. I'm willing to bet, though, that you changed in ways that she did not like. I'd be worried if you hadn't changed since you were married. I have no idea as to who was more at "fault", nor do I care. I do, however, think that any relationship involves compromise to be successful. If you can't recognize your own shortcomings, it makes a future relationship very unlikely to succeed in the long term.
You've peace'd out so you won't read this, but I think it needs to be said. Trying to criticize someone else on what is an extremely difficult and complicated decision based on incomplete information gleaned from an internet post is in every conceivable way being a jerk. We only have a small glimpse into the madness that is HungryJoe, I'd recommend not being a dick and trying to disassemble it. It was pertinent to answer Scott's question, it's not enough information to make any sort of meaningful criticism. If any was even necessary, which it isn't. He didn't ask us for help, he asked us where he could get his teeth sharpened.
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Speaking of changes, I've lost almost all interest in video games lately. Though I think this is temporary as I'm spending all my time reading about finance and accounting.
Madoka was pretty sweet, though. Fucking cat. Fuck that guy.
He is also correct about wasting the other people's time.
I have short term attention spans with both video games and anime now. I'd rather do a little here and there while I spend more time either crafting, studying Japanese, or reading. It was just a suggestion. Not saying it was a good one. I think it has the possibilities of at least an interesting story or two out of it.
Trust me, finish the show. It's worth it.
A) Divorce is not fun. I get it. But does this mean that nobody should get married? If your marriage gave you 100 points of happiness and 20 points of sadness (from the bad days and the divorce), aren't you still ahead by 80 happy points? And if so, wasn't it a good idea to get married - even if it ended badly? I understand that you can have a relationship without getting married, so the question is really whether marriage itself adds some happy points.
C) Divorce without children seems so darned easy to me. It can be done quickly, and people can move on and be much happier. Divorce with children is usually rough on the children, even if its amicable. That's unfortunate.
D) Listening to the problems of couples without kids makes me laugh. Raising children is HARD. Picture hard and double it. Double that again. We have things rather easy, and it's still hard. Studies show that people under 40 with children are less happy than those who do not have children. However, those who have had children are happier than those who have not after age 40. Having children is hard at the time, but it makes you feel warm, fuzzy and secure later in life. It's a question of when you want your pleasure.
E) The laws concerning divorce are so screwed up. I could write a book on this topic.
Oddly, I've never heard you admit to any shortcomings. Maybe you'e just not mature enough to practice what you preach - or maybe you're just moving the goalposts. All in all, I think I liked you better when you said you'd never speak to me again. Alas for broken promises.
You say you're so smart and wise that you could write a book to instruct all of us who do not have the benefit of being born with your superior faculties just how wrong we've all been about divorce and how to make divorce a more rational, less "screwed up" process. One can only wonder why, if you have the wherewithal to write such a groundbreaking manifesto, why you haven't done so already instead of continuing to toil in obscurity.
Sorry I chimed in. Try to be less angry if you are looking to be happy. Peace and best wishes to you.
EDIT - please disregard. Vanilla 2 is starting to be mean to me.
I blame Kilarney.
Turning a wall into a blacboard would be supercool.
@Kilarney - WTF?