I find making up your own rules helps a great deal. Fuck arbitrary standards.
You have to be monogamous? Who fucking says? The only people whose opinions matter are you and me. So let's set fidelity rules that WE want and can be happy with.
You can't re-evaluate your commitments after time has passed? Who says? Make sure you have a partner who is cool with periodically assessing your joint situation and making rational decisions about the future.
Also, I flat out tell Pete when I dislike his friends or his activities. I am not going to help him brew beer or go to a party where there will be a crazy chick who hates me because she wants to date my boyfriend. It's a lot better not to secretly hate (okay, dislike) things. Do it out in the open!
No subjects are taboo for us to talk to each other about. If he wants to ask about my age/hormones/whatever, that's cool. Society might say you never ask a woman if she is PMSing, but in my case that is a really good question to ask if I'm acting wonko!
QFT. Exactly. "Hey, I think you are being irrational, are you on the rag?" hehe. Nothing gets you killed more.
I know, right? For me it is the PMS that makes me crazier. Once that passes, I am fine. It is worse if I'm off my meds, but pointing it out if I haven't realized it yet can be really helpful.
I've started being able to tell when Katie is acting irrationally. I used to be a bit worried about her taking it as unnecessary criticism when I would say "Hey, you're not mad at me. You're suffering through x and I just happen to be around.". I think I was also afraid of abusing that or using it as an excuse to be a dick.
It's gotten better the last few months though. Even though we had always communicated well, we are communicating better now.
Honestly no matter how good at communicating you think you are, you are probably deficient in some particular way in a relationship, I haven't seen a relationship where there isn't at least a small communication problem because we all can't read minds.
Honestly no matter how good at communicating you think you are, you are probably deficient in some particular way in a relationship, I haven't seen a relationship where there isn't at least a small communication problem because we all can't read minds.
Yeah. That's why I always strive for better communication and what not. I also strive for as much hot chocolate as I can get.
There are plenty of irrational men out there. I just generally tell those stories in person when I am ridiculing an ex or explaining why we broke up. Usually because those men were irrational ALL THE TIME about certain things, and I couldn't handle it.
The menstrual cycle generally makes women's fluctuations in mood more pronounced and cyclical than men's, so it is easier to pinpoint and treat.
Scott, you should do one of those silly Speed Dating things in NYC and come back on the podcast with stories. I want to hear them.
Yeah, not going to happen.
Why not? That would be a learning experience. You want to learn, don't you?
I don't have any time as it is. What am I going to not do to make time to go out there? You want me to cut out some Counter-Strike? I don't think so. I also won't want to be there. So I'll not only be wasting my own money and time, but everyone else's as well.
You just mad cuz your fiance be stylin' on ya...And you can't fix it with delicious bacon fat pie crusts and gourmet hot chocolates.
Alternately, this is the man-portable nuclear option. I grab bars of this chocolate for my ladyfriends when they go on breaks with their boyfriends or otherwise have some reason to regularly call me while crying: Vosges Haut Chocolat.
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It's gotten better the last few months though. Even though we had always communicated well, we are communicating better now.
Also, rational single ladies. Call me.
The menstrual cycle generally makes women's fluctuations in mood more pronounced and cyclical than men's, so it is easier to pinpoint and treat.
Scott, you should do one of those silly Speed Dating things in NYC and come back on the podcast with stories. I want to hear them.
"goose fat pie dough 'streusel'"
Alternately, this is the man-portable nuclear option. I grab bars of this chocolate for my ladyfriends when they go on breaks with their boyfriends or otherwise have some reason to regularly call me while crying: Vosges Haut Chocolat.
Never mind. I took a look at the site. I'm pretty sure no man can repel confections of that magnitude.