I've tried and failed once again. All of these awesome girls need to stop being so unavailable. However, on the upside, it is getting frighteningly easy for me to handle rejection.
Life lesson #1: Passive aggressive people are not fun to date. Don't be one, and don't date one. Sorry to hear of your issues with the Girl, WindUp. Women are fucking crazy. (obligatory Kate-shield: Men are crazy too.)
That story about the girl saying she was leaving to elicit a request to stay is a perfect example. Girls and guys both do this pretty equally. People who are afraid of confrontation or have confidence issues very often take a roundabout, manipulative way to get what they want. It can backfire hardcore. My ex tried to guilt me into staying in a monogamous, long-distance relationship with him. He tried to do it by making comments about not trusting me. Comments like, "How do I know that's what really happened? All I have is your word." He was probably trying to get me to reassure him and promise to stay exclusive until he could learn to trust me again (which would never happen because he was insecure and trying to force monogamy without admitting it)... but I don't take that shit, and I told him if he didn't trust me then he shouldn't be dating me and then left for good.
Summary: When in a situation like this where the choices are (a) they truly mean what they say, or (b) they are trying to manipulate you, the proper choice is always to end (or not to pursue) the relationship.
Life lesson #1: Passive aggressive people are not fun to date. Don't be one, and don't date one. Sorry to hear of your issues with the Girl, WindUp. Women are fucking crazy.(obligatory Kate-shield: Men are crazy too.)
...it is getting frighteningly easy for me to handle rejection.
This took a slightly more literal turn when I started working on this and then played Left 4 Dead 2 while listening to Those Whom the Gods Detest and Winnipeg is a Frozen Shithole. I can't say that feel good right now, but I really don't feel too bad.
while listening to Those Whom the Gods Detest and Winnipeg is a Frozen Shithole.
Yeah. I went with VSnares and the most sickeningly paranoid-depressive alcoholic black metal I could find. It helps a lot.
The title means "Let the Winter Last Forever."
On a more cheerful note, women seem to actually find me attractive now, and I actually still have some possible leads going on still. On Saturday, I'm going into Chicago with my little brother to get some pork belly ramen and duck dumplings. I am feeling pretty good.
That's a pretty big bonus. So many guys don't even try because they're afraid of rejection. With that out of the way, you have nothing to lose!
That's the idea. Remember when I told you that I throw myself into awkward social situations to make up for lost time? That was one of my motivations. :P
@ Nuri: The Kate shield wasn't that necessary. Unfortunately, I have met a lot more crazy women than crazy men. I think it is mainly owing to massive warping of female minds by societal pressures. I also think that our society is designed to cater to man-children, so their "craziness" seems less out of the ordinary.
I think it is mainly owing to massive warping of female minds by societal pressures. I also think that our society is designed to cater to man-children, so their "craziness" seems less out of the ordinary.
Two very interesting points -- the first of which seems pretty obvious to me, but the second of which had never even entered my mind. Thanks very much for that.
I know, I know, male hormones fluctuate too. I think the difference is that because ours aren't on such an obvious cycle, we tend to write them off more. Women have reliable hormone fluctuations, so we're exposed to it at regular intervals.
But societal pressure ain't helping the situation either.
Any thing that is a non-natural colour. Double points if it's two colours that work together. If it's any more than that it starts to look like a unicorn vomited on their head.
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That story about the girl saying she was leaving to elicit a request to stay is a perfect example. Girls and guys both do this pretty equally. People who are afraid of confrontation or have confidence issues very often take a roundabout, manipulative way to get what they want. It can backfire hardcore. My ex tried to guilt me into staying in a monogamous, long-distance relationship with him. He tried to do it by making comments about not trusting me. Comments like, "How do I know that's what really happened? All I have is your word." He was probably trying to get me to reassure him and promise to stay exclusive until he could learn to trust me again (which would never happen because he was insecure and trying to force monogamy without admitting it)... but I don't take that shit, and I told him if he didn't trust me then he shouldn't be dating me and then left for good.
Summary: When in a situation like this where the choices are (a) they truly mean what they say, or (b) they are trying to manipulate you, the proper choice is always to end (or not to pursue) the relationship.
Nah, I feel good.
The title means "Let the Winter Last Forever."
On a more cheerful note, women seem to actually find me attractive now, and I actually still have some possible leads going on still. On Saturday, I'm going into Chicago with my little brother to get some pork belly ramen and duck dumplings. I am feeling pretty good.
What is it with me and being attracted to soon-to-be-out-of-closet lesbians?
I know, I know, male hormones fluctuate too. I think the difference is that because ours aren't on such an obvious cycle, we tend to write them off more. Women have reliable hormone fluctuations, so we're exposed to it at regular intervals.
But societal pressure ain't helping the situation either.
Not that I'm looking to date. At least not until I'm free.