Seriously, dude. Shoot her a text: "Hey, I dig you. Let's date." And if she says yes? BOOM. If she says no? "Well, I'd still like to hang. You're pretty cool."
Worst case: YOU HAVE A NEW FRIEND. Best case: YOU HAVE A FRIEND YOU CAN KISS AND MAYBE HAVE SEX WITH IF YOU STAY COOL.
That's what we in the business call a win-serious fuckin' win, CyrilRyan.
I understand if you want to keep things a little not-so-nervewracking until your test on Friday, but hard to get is not actually a real thing. Girls want guys who take initiative. Trust me on this one.
I understand if you want to keep things a little not-so-nervewracking until your test on Friday, but hard to get is not actually a real thing. Girls want guys who take initiative. Trust me on this one.
RYAN: Look, do you see this quote from Axel? This is a guy who (with respect to Axel, a dear friend) admits that his Asperger's may have caused him relationship problems.
Yeah. Just be all like: "Female lady. We have been having the get-togethers. They have been good. Shall we escalate them to a date-like capacity that may involve explicit romanticism?" Then she'll be all like, "Oh, your open display of confidence has my heart all a flutter!" And then she'll start humping your leg.
Okay, that last part probably won't happen, but there's actually like a 2% chance it will.
Ryan, being coy never earned you a damned thing. Waiting around and playing games pisses people off, it doesn't make you endearing. I dated the guy that was the first to message me when I got internet in England and biked across town in the fucking rain, daily to spend time with me when he thought I was a lesbian, not the one who was inconsistent in responses and tried to make me lead. If you're really interested in her, be SINCERELY INTERESTED IN HER AS A PERSON.
So nut up or shut up. Moaning about the "consolation prize" and similarly making every goddamn situation the exact same from your perspective is exactly the attitude that is making you unattractive. Stop looking for SOMEone, for a "prize" to obtain a goal, and look for a person. Hell. Stop looking altogether. You might be able to find a wonderful person if you stop seeming like you need someone for the sake of it.
This. Also, if you're interested in her BE INTERESTED IN HER. Talk to her, ask her questions about what she does and be sincerely interested in everything she says.
Actually, that's good advice no matter the social situation. Just be open minded and interested in everything under the sun, then you'll always have something to talk about.
I like your avatar, Sean. That's my current state at the moment. I wanted to change my name to Ro, but the forum only allows for names of at least 3 characters.
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Worst case: YOU HAVE A NEW FRIEND.
Best case: YOU HAVE A FRIEND YOU CAN KISS AND MAYBE HAVE SEX WITH IF YOU STAY COOL.
That's what we in the business call a win-serious fuckin' win, Cyril Ryan.
DO THIS NOW. 30 MINUTES. I EXPECT A REPORT.
HE IS GIVING YOU THE SAME ADVICE I AM GIVING YOU
SACK UP
DO THIS THING AND BE WHO YOU'RE GOING TO BE
Either way, hook in, dude. This isn't a fine wine, it's not going to get better with age.
"Female lady. We have been having the get-togethers. They have been good. Shall we escalate them to a date-like capacity that may involve explicit romanticism?"
Then she'll be all like,
"Oh, your open display of confidence has my heart all a flutter!" And then she'll start humping your leg.
Okay, that last part probably won't happen, but there's actually like a 2% chance it will.
YOUR WORST CASE SCENARIO IS NOW BEST CASE SCENARIO BECAUSE BROTIME
THE ENTIRE BOARD WILL BE DISAPPOINT
RYAN
THIS IS YOU
THIS IS ME
VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION
WHO DO YOU BELIEVE IN??
TELL THAT BITTY YOU WANT IT TO POP OFF RIGHT THE FUCK NAO
SHOW HIM
Don't believe in the Axel that believes in you.
Believe in the you...Who believes in the boobs.
Also the you.
I JUST WANT YOU TO SEE HOW GOOD YOU CAN BE
DO THIS AND LET ME SHOW YOU. PLEASE.
So nut up or shut up. Moaning about the "consolation prize" and similarly making every goddamn situation the exact same from your perspective is exactly the attitude that is making you unattractive. Stop looking for SOMEone, for a "prize" to obtain a goal, and look for a person. Hell. Stop looking altogether. You might be able to find a wonderful person if you stop seeming like you need someone for the sake of it.
But man, now I'm pissed that I went to bed slightly early last night. I could have been directly involved with the AWESOME PARTY at FORT KICKASS.
Actually, that's good advice no matter the social situation. Just be open minded and interested in everything under the sun, then you'll always have something to talk about.